As I often iterate, being a mother is one of the most terrifying and challenging jobs there is. With it comes an incomparable wisdom, an ability to configure life’s priorities and abstain from useless over-complication that us semi-youngsters are so prone to. Last week, I asked all of you lovely readers to send me the most genuine, organic, old-school advice your wise mothers instilled upon you. Without further ado, here are some of the best gems from our moms, our real life Superheroes!
“Do everything you do with dignity and you won’t have many regrets.”
“Set an early precedent in your relationships of standing up for yourself right away. Listen to your gut if something feels wrong, never get in the habit of asking your man for permission to do what you want.”
“Successful marriage is equal parts love and fear – on the man’s side, that is. Never be more into him than he is into you.”
“A man will treat you the way he treats his mother. If he doesn’t have a good relationship with her, its almost always a lost cause.”
“If you love something, let it go. If it comes back to you, its yours forever. If it doesn’t, then it was never meant to be.” (Sent in the midst of a very painful breakup.)
“If you are really interested in him, don’t sleep with him on the first date. Also, you cannot change a man. Try to find somebody who is on the same page as you.”
“Be authentic, things come as they have to come.”
“Don’t fall in love or a poor person or a loser (unemployed, hippie, etc) – money isn’t happiness, but it helps when it comes to being happy.” (Where was this mom when I needed her?)
“You meet people at certain moments of their life, and yours. What matters may not be finding the right person, but finding a person of good character at the right moment for them and yourself, at the point when you can imagine evolving with someone and forming a future.”
“Don’t put people on pedestals. They can never live up to your expectations and you can’t be equal in a situation where you think they’re better than you, so everyone loses.” (Via Isaac Likes.)
“Obsession over a man can only lead to negative consequences. Also, its very unbecoming.”
“Feed him and f*ck him good. Make sure he loves you and treats you right. Don’t screw each other over for anybody or anything. This is the stuff for real life, romance is for beginners.”
“Count until 10 before you answer.” (My own mom, reaffirming the Triple Step Filtration System.)
Peruse more advice from last year HERE!