The other night, my best friend and hubby-in-law, one of the most in-sync couples I know, had an argument. The reason? He had ‘liked’ some random girl’s selfie on Instagram – mouth open wide, staring into the mirror with an expression of blank stupidity on her face – bref, the usual Instafuckme pic, just like the million others sweeping the Internet like some fast-spreading digital plague.
While I normally mock unreasonable jealousy, deeming it is a completely fruitless pursuit, this one hit a spot. To start, I would hardly call it jealousy – nobody actually thinks that their boyfriend/husband is going to run away with some girl who stacks her breasts on a selfie stick as a hobby. Rather, it is the idea of men virally following these girls – quite literally, like a bunch of dogs following a foul smell – that is unnerving.
This wasn’t the first time I had heard of this. During a trip to Russia a few months back, my childhood best friend complained about her husband’s questionable Instagram activity. Going through his phone, we discovered that 100 of his 200 followees were indeed Instasluts: gym selfies, car selfies, mirror in the mirror of a mirror selfies – how many reflective surfaces can these girls find? Please keep in mind that his wife is gorgeous and works very hard on retaining the same physique she had in high school when they met, after having two children. Granted, I did her a favor and unfollowed them all.
In the past few years, it appears that the number of professional Instasluts has spun out of proportion, their million+ followings driven by men who are often in committed relationships. I understand that men are visual creatures and this is technically just eye candy, a harmless distraction from the mundane, similar to Sports Illustrated or soft porn. Perhaps, it’s the continuity and accessibility of it that bothers me so much: while porn is time-sensitive pastime designated for a specific purpose, Instasluts provide men the opportunity to ogle tits and ass on every single crosslight, bathroom stall, business meeting, and kid’s dance recital. And something about that simply feels wrong.
Thoughts? Am I being crazy, bitter, jealous that my waist-to-hip ratio will never resemble a 4th grade math equation and my mirror selfie will never garner 7,142,388 likes? I think I might be. But do I also have a point?
Let’s talk about this!
I think you have a point! I believe that in the case of your married friends, they have nothing to worry about, as I’m sure they’re beautiful and their husbands fell in love for a reason, but I hate to admit how many times I’ve succumb to insane jealousy watching the guy I’m with scroll down his IG feed to see countless girls in bikinis, or clingwrap instead of material dresses. Perhaps it’s a sign of my own insecurity but I believe that there’s no need to follow those accounts if you have a good girl already!
Hi Jenna! I couldn’t agree more – and, once again, I’m not even a jealous person by nature. Maybe its the idea that the guy constantly having visual stimulation to compare me too…? My own insecurities? I don’t know, food for thought..
It’s still classed as cheating in my eyes if a guy looks at these pics he is getting sexually aroused.
My husband calls Instagram models sexy and says hey beautiful to them but doesn’t call me beautiful unless I ask him to
I ask him what they have that I don’t have but he says nothing your perfect
What am I doi.g wrong
Going thru the same! I’m sick of it! Now that he has me (we got married in March) he thinks he can continue to flirt with these sluts. Takes 2 to do wrong. I’m so sick of it!
Going through the exact same thing and it’s BS if you ask me. I am a jealous person but it doesn’t help when the person you are in a relationship with constantly is liking and commenting on other women’s posts that show pictures of themselves half naked but yet will barely put a like on something that you post. I 100% feel that is cheating when he is calling that slut “sexy, beautiful, baby, sweetheart, gorgeous” and all the things he should be calling you. Who wants some whore that puts her whole body out there for the everyone in the world to see like that. What happened to having some respect for yourself? No these sluts just want to shake their ass for anyone and everyone. But yet he says that those type of “women” if that’s what you want to call them, are the ones that just get used and thrown away. Well then why even waste the time to give them the attention in the first place then. That’s like yelling at a dog for shitting on the floor and then telling him what a good boy he is. The ridiculous thing about it is my boyfriend has been taken for money by Instasluts not once, not twice, but three times. I just caught him not to long ago sharing a greendot bank card with one and it’s always my fault somehow and Facebook isn’t any better. I hate social media. It just made it easier for people to cheat.
I can say without a doubt in my mind that looking at a nude pic of any lady absolutely does zero for me. And as I write this I can say unless there is action behind the motive then pictures are a poor substitute for the real thing. SEX.
Wow Jay, must be some life you have!
Wow I’m shocked at how many women here are saying that their bf or husband is commenting things like ‘gorgeous’ ‘babe’ etc. That’s crazy to me! My gf told me she was uncomfortable with me following some slutty girls and I unfollowed all of them (there are very few things that I wouldn’t stop doing if they made her uncomfortable, and I would have to believe that they are very beneficial to me), but I was never commenting or DMing them! I think you gotta draw that line, and if he won’t stop, leave him.
Whether ur married or not you still have feelings and insecurities and shouldn’t have to put up with that level of disrespect
Bottom line is, most men these days need to look at prostitutes to get turned on. A lot of these girls on IG are actually call girls.They look at these images before having sex with their girlfriend/wife. When they are having sex with you they are not thinking about you, they are pretending you are the person (or persons) they were looking at on the phone earlier. Why do do you think there is an epidemic of erectile disfunction? Because men cannot be turned on by the real thing. They need to be turned on by pixels of women who are nothing but demons!!!!!
Love your self and flee from these men, cause at the end of the day they don’t love you… they never did. They only wanted your body…. they only wanted you for sex….
My ex followed hundreds of instasluts. Ok it’s not classed as cheating but when he is masturbating over them well to me that’s just wrong. I said I will follow hot men and do the same he said he wasnt bothered.
He said he wasn’t bothered …?
Then try masturbating in front of him to a pic of one of his friends. THEN he’ll get a glimpse of what it feels like for women when her partner gets off on a pic of some random instaslut.
If course he doesn’t care if you got off to a random dude. The comparison isn’t the same. Get off to someone he KNOWS. I guarantee, you’ll hit all the feels for him.
Good luck!!!!
I came to this for advice. But this sounds like a huge leap and a hostile plan of action. How can those two thing’s possibly be comparable?
Hi, Caught my Live-in of 10 Yrs on FB Messenger as Single and Bull Sh – – – ing women having them falling in love with him. When I confronted him he said he is NOT cheating on me because he doesn’t meet up w them. He also said I could participate in Cam Sex w anyone I wanted as long as I didn’t fall in love w them. He said no one can tell him how , when or where to change what he was doing even though I told him I did not like what he was doing. It took him 5 months to get around to writ his Dear John Letter to #7 of his females. I didn’t tell him to go because of 2 kids. Now he gets Reels of big real heavy women which he drools over every day on his FB and I get pets and children on Reels
I have given this matter so much thought. This issue brings up ALL of my insecurities and makes me miserable. I don’t think looking at hot man equates to this; I believe the only thing that compares to the offense would be to act the same way and post similar content so your partner understands through the same experience
I couldn’t agree more. Just today I was going through Instagram and saw my boyfriend was following girls holding guns who were wearing booty shorts and had tiny tank tops on with their tits popping out. Im pretty sure he recently started following that page too. It honestly makes me feel like I’m not good enough and I get so jealous. I start to wonder if I should just end it. Any ideas? I don’t follow any guys with no clothes on, just actors! I feel unloved.
You are not alone. I wonder if there are any guys out there that don’t need to follow multiple women like this? The worst is when they claim they “know” them. As if that’s supposed to make me feel better.
It’s not even jealousy it’s something else something unnamed, it’s disrespectful and repulsive and infuriating and hurtful and saddening all at the same time. Like so fuckin disappointing that you’d trade valuable time with your family and give it to some attention skank on the internet who you pretend would even have a conversation with you about your little dick but if she saw you in real life she’d look like a used up street worker without a filter but still wouldn’t sit on your face. The desperation in them is such a turn off.
This is soo true and the way you’ve put it is spot on! They don’t even realise it’s plastic surgeries, filters and camera angles! The disrespect is unreal.
Omg!!! So glad not to be alone in this
I believe the truth is in your last sentence. “The desperation and them is such a turn off”, Because I believe that is what is the trigger for the insecurity. Why would they be so desperate and why aren’t they willing to spend that same energy on the person they’re with? The desperation and itself is repulsive. The fact that they neglect you, your family, and the future of such is equally repulsive. The countless minutes that add up to hours that are taken away from the moments that could be spent together is repulsive. I believe this makes a man so unattractive and definitely doesn’t equate to our wanting to please them sexually or at all actually. I do believe we have hope though, because I have noticed that some of the younger generation is more repulsed by it. Not that this helps any of us that are not looking for a 20-year-old but I have noticed a difference. Hopefully the “instaslut” trend will die down or relationships are guaranteed to.
To be honest if it was girls that my husband actually knew personally that would be more concerning for me. Not less. It’s laughable that your partner would think it makes you less worried.
Did you ever notice that men and women are different?
Men are by nature visual. We need and want visual stimulation. That’s all there is to it. It is not cheating. To cheat involves exchange of bodily fluids. period.
“Emotional Affair” is a made up term and doesn’t mean anything. Have you ever thought of providing your man with lots of visual stimulation and also ask him to be more descreet and more respectful of your feelings when it comes to being visually stimulated by random women (which all men are… or they are lying to shield you from your feelings.
Mr Michael, Just because you aren’t physically sleeping with the person doesn’t mean it’s not cheating.
If my husband had an Onlyfans i would certainly consider it to be cheating because it means he’s actually interacting with these women and paying to have access to them.
Following and liking Instagram posts might be innocent enough, but commenting and DM’ing these women when you’re in a committed relationship is definitely crossing a line. It’s like what are you trying to achieve by commenting to them? Those models with thousands of followers won’t notice it anyway. You must be single with your attitude.
Wait, so you’re saying if a woman, who is an emotional creature by nature, is sexting another dude to get horny, that’s acceptable? Women need to feel desired in order to have desire. If a man is desiring every other woman, rather than putting that energy into his woman, she isn’t going to want him sexually…unless she feels desired by someone else and uses that as a way to get in the mood. Oops, then y’all wonder why women stop wanting sex in long term relationships…it’s not rocket science.
unless she is ovulating. then all she wants is to feel a dick, any dick, ejaculating inside her!
Mr. Mike, some women do send their men visual stimulation, and the jackasses still prefer the skanks with insecurities lower than our own. Nothing destroys a woman’s self-esteem and confidenc level than to know that her husband/boyfriend is looking at photos of strange women and jacking off, but hey! When his wife/girlfriend offers, he tells her, “Sorry, babes. I’m too tired. Can we do it later? She agrees, only to wake up early early early morning to find him jerking of to one of them instasluts. Nice try, though. Maybe next time.
Jenni
My ex was always intrigued with these sights but in the end it was still in my mind upsetting that I was 40 and he was looking at 20 year old instasluts. Nothing more ever came out of it…he lost his job and started doing meth with an ex co-worker..it was all over day and night looking on the computer. Still nothing came of it. Then one day one did show up I found this piece of trash hiding in my basement so I pulled her by the weave and threw her out . I left too. But am so not trusting anyone.
Most women are so hypocritical. He likes a picture of a girl he doesn’t know and then she runs to her male best friend to out his business and make him seem like some disgusting bastard. Grow up and stop acting like you’ve never liked your male best friends picture for example. And you know him and clearly visit him with or without your husband. Stupid. You introduce insecurities you get insecurities. It’s never the woman. It’s always the man. And the male best friend would condone the fears of the woman when it’s some one she doesn’t know. Why are you hanging on to your male best friend then? Do you not have a life of your own you need to tend to and take serious? Hence the name of the website “deuchebagdating” cause this guy is honestly a deuchebag.
Agreed. What’s the big deal??? It’s just a picture.
I don’t have a male best friend or any male friend. So what now?
My husband wants to get off to some porn? Whatever that’s fine.
But following an instaslut and having her new photo alert show up on the fucking screen on his phone when he supposedly doesn’t know how to even use insta? No. And he wouldn’t be ok with it if I was doing it. Talk about hypocritical.
THIS man is going to find himself eating ramen noodles all alone pretty soon because I’m done.
to which he will say, ‘see ya’!
I couldn’t agree more! I have been in a relationship for three years which started out rocky with my partner messaging past gfs (always with an excuse or lie) and then constantly adding these attention seeking Insta pages and liking multiple bikini clad women. And this was just the beginning of him then messaging random women and trying to pass them off as old acquaintances be it through PT work or Army he was once it. Now I’m a fairly confident women who takes pride in her appearance and often gets compliments but it has really rattled me and brought out anxiety like you wouldn’t believe everytime I see he’s added yet another page. And I don’t care what the excuse is anymore, it is plain disrespectful on so many levels and a form of cheating period!
This is a pretty good article. I am recently going through the same thing. My husband recently got an Instagram account after a friend of his mentioned to him he should create one, so he created one a few months ago. I was curious to see who he was following so I had a quick look and most of the accounts are half-naked, red-headed girls.
In this case it’s not like he knows any of them. It’s girls with thousand of followers. I don’t have red hair, which is odd. I think possibly an ex of his might have red hair but not entirely sure. I suppose these days maybe Instagram is like a modern version of Playboy isn’t it? I suppose just scrolling past without any interaction might be harmless enough, but the last few days I’ve noticed that it has progressed to actually clicking like on these girls pictures, which means he’s taking the time to do more than just a quick scroll by.
I just hope he isn’t actively engaging in direct communication with these girls. I haven’t seen him commenting on any of the pictures that he’s liked, which is a good sign but I hope it doesn’t progress to that. Commenting would certainly be crossing the line for me, so if I ever see a comment of his on one of these pictures there’ll be hell to pay.
I don’t even know if it’s worth it for me to bring it up with him? because he doesn’t know that I looked to see who he was following and he doesn’t actually scroll through them when I can see it, so what would I say? Would for sure start an argument that I really don’t need. It doesn’t really help that I’m 23 weeks pregnant with our first child and I don’t have a lot of control over my body. Pretty sure he wouldn’t like it if I was to start following hot, shirtless men but maybe I should start?
Hi, whenever I started dating my gf I went and unfollowed just about every girl on my Instagram that I don’t personally know, but just recently I apparently happened to miss one of them unknowingly and my noticed and is mad at me for it
Am I in the wrong? I can understand her being mad about it but i had no idea I was still following her and she is now acting very cold towards me because of it.
Hi Dawson, If you genuinely didn’t realise you were still following her I’d say it’s definitely an overreaction from your girlfriend.
I don’t think it’s an over reaction. You did mess up and that caused her to feel hurt. Even if it was a mistake, there are still consequences.
I disagree this is just a sad attempt to normalize oversexualization of women and children, look up the many studies that prove we shouldn’t normalize the abnormal behavior we allow today -JACK
So freaking glad I’m not alone!!! I was in a large with someone who was crying about trauma so I was careful to not upset him the whole fuckinv time not only was he liking and commenting baby, beautiful and implying he wanted to have sex with them he was chasing other soulless selfie girls. Messaging other woman publically or privately about there sexy pictures especially sex workers irrates the fuck out of me. We are done I refuse on so many levels to deal with that type of low level disrespect
Hi Marina,
First of all I’d like to apologize for not making a good contribution to the subject discussed in the article. Although I am male, I am neither in a relationship nor am I fallowing one of those graceful females you mentioned. Therefore I don’t qualify for leaving a comment.
But I like to thank you for all the time and work you put into this blog. Everytime I spend 3,5 minutes to read one of your posts I have a big, big smile on my face.
I hope we se you around for a bit longer. Thank you!
Dear Ludwig,
A – you are already a shining prince in my eyes for not following any of these “graceful females” as you so eloquently put it.
B – thank you, thank you, thank you, a million times thank you. I am definitely sticking around, so please do so as well!
I agree! I totally laughed out loud at how you wrote that article!!
My boyfriend and I have had these issues from the beginning of our relationship- I have body dismorphia and have had two kids and hate my tummy now- tons of stretch marks, working out and eating healthy in my thirties- and these chicks with a fucking waist that I surely will never have again? And that’s what you’re looking at? Which make me feel- weird: to put it plainly. I explained this in a calm manner after I discovered some stupid bimbo on his phone he pm’d on her live story! And I just asked, why? What’s the point? Why are you doing it? Are you not happy with us? He said he didn’t even think about why- it just….. was!!!! Ok now that’s just weird- again.
I am finding this to be a serious going trend with a good handful of my friends and their boyfriends- it’s driving us crazy. Literally- I had to get myself off insta bc I found myself looking for what he was looking at. Just over it: I want to live back in the early 90’s!
Thanks for your article!! Xoxo
I feel exactly the same way. It keeps me up at night and sometimes it feels like I’m falling apart over it. I try to ignore it and I just can’t.
I so feel uou, it’s heartbreaking 😢
How did you deal with this situation? I am going through something similar. and i think this is very disrespectful. i am having low self esteem and had to get myself off from social media just so that i dont get to know what he liked or commented and upset myself. i dont think i deserve this.
This * . My bf while at Christmas dinner with me and my family was liking naked photos..not of instasluts , nope! His real life friends ! They all hate me and have literally created an online hate campaign because i called this behaviour out
Y’all are judgy, insecure losers.
Men turn to instasluts b/c they are very attractive, and that’s what men want. We don’t want some chick who nags at us, says WE get jealous too easily but goes through our phone b/c they’re more insecure than we are, who throws all this women’s lib bullshit at us every day but then chastises us for not taking out the trash or assumes we’re always gonna pick up the check at a restaurant…. “b/c that’s the man’s job.”
It reeks of hypocrisy that we don’t have to deal with at all when we’re fantasizing about these much sexier, much younger, and much more fertile sex objects.
It’s our animal instinct to chase women, not be the lifeless, pussy-whipped imps y’all turn us into as soon as we say, “I do”.
Don’t wanna feel insecure? How about hitting the gym? How about not having seconds for desserts tonight? Or dessert at all.
We want thin, sexual, obedient sex toys in bed, not some nagging, old biddy who whines online about her insecurities rather than wrapping her lips around our dick.
That’s how you get us to put our phones down.
Harsh? Yes. But truth.
You sound like a bitter old fart that is playing the victim due to choosing to be in a relationship that hasn’t fulfilled you. Which you take no side in and just blame your unsatisfying relationships all on the woman. So you generalise women in relationships as being the ones who are insecure, nagging and not as attractive as the temporary satisfaction of some random women who would open her legs and keep her mouth shut for you. Instead of acknowledging the respect you could give to your partner in order to improve your sex life and relationship with her . Males prefer Being satisfied with the temporary high of a random slut is easier and more enjoyable if you don’t have the respect or capacity to manage a healthy relationship. Yes. Basically males all struggle regardless to stick to one woman.Stop making excuses for cheating. And justifying it like it’s ok. It ain’t. Full stop.
😂😂😂😂 I 100% guarantee that you have not fucked a woman of any shape or age in a long long time your comment reeks of hatred for something you want but doesn’t nor ever will want you. Sad.
“Programmed to chase women” literally is “pussy-whipped.” So stop hating and admit you are indeed pussy whipped. Problem is you cannot actually obtain the women you intend to chase. Don’t take that frustration out on your partner. Instead do everyone, including yourself, a favor and just stay out of monogamous relationships since this is how you feel. To the females: I feel women are reasonable about this issue. We understand men liking porn and females bodies, most women enjoy it as well. However viewing porn in private is different than publicly following nude chicks and having them come up on a feed at all times of the night and day. It’s a simple matter of respect. Keep your private time with porn or any arousing material private. I’m not gonna flash a pic of some gorgeous guy with a huge d*** that ive been ogling over In front of my husband. It wld be disrespectful and i care about his feelings. And he wouldn’t do that to me either. Of course not all women are even bothered by this, but if you are it’s not too much to ask for. You’re not asking to refrain from looking—you just don’t wanna see it. Am i right?
Yup that guy wont ever have anything more than jergens and tissues till the day he dies. Do us a favor and gtfo….your a waste of space and no woman would proccurate with your small dick
You are a horrible human being if that’s what you really think about women. We are human beings and we do deserve more respect than that. All women are beautiful in their own way. It’s your issue if you’re too blind to see it or it could also be that you’re simply too daft to appreciate our uniqueness, I’m not too sure…only you would know the answer to that. I don’t know who you think you are to tell us what we should do or how we should look but you better make sure you’re absolute perfection before you impose your judgment/ideals on women.
Sounds like he is extremely insecure. Feel bad for the one that finds this prize, lol
Says the likely bitter incel who hates women. No one with that much hatred toward females is getting any – your post stinks of the same insecurity you complain about.
Clearly you have insecurities by DBAG comments you just made. Let me guess??? You’re the poor sucker sittin in your moms basement hearting InstaSlut photos, getting your rocks off by yourself because you have NO fucking clue how to please a woman?? But…I bet you’re pretty fucking good at getting yourself off now aren’t you??? Yeah, you can get that shit done in 0.2 seconds. You, my friend, are the exact guy who will never know what it is to truly love a woman and have true intimacy with a straight up, beautiful inside and out woman. I feel sorry for you.
“ We want thin, sexual, obedient sex toys in bed, not some nagging, old biddy who whines online about her insecurities rather than wrapping her lips around our dick”. Seriously? Well women want a lot of things too out of men. But the key, in any relationship is respect, communication and compromise. Also some neurons. A bag of dirt like you just can’t understand…happy instaporning lol. Idiot.
He’s just mad cause mommy would breastfeed him..
You sound like you have emotional intelligence of a sultana.
Wow! Sounds like you had a bad breakup in the past or bad divorce and are still bitter about it. Ever thought of seeing a therapist?
You are right in the way that men probably do enjoy to look at photos of attractive women even if they are married, but these are generally not the women any respectful man would want to marry or would want to be the mother of his children.
Would you want the woman who is raising your children to be taking photos of her tits out for all to see? If yes then good luck with your hand and your pictures of women who you wouldn’t get within 40 feet off.
What if your gf is one of those ig girls who looks good already? Even better than the whores the dude follows?? Then what??
Has every single attribute you just said every man “wants” … then why does he still feel the need to follow whores and like their shit???
I’m not getting it.
Because ur talking about women who are “pleasing” to the eye… ok I get that…. But answer what I just asked.. cuz there is literally NO ANSWER to that one.
Even BEYONCÉ was cheated on, like wtf.
Do you know what fertile means? It means that you have the ability to bear children. How would you know if these women are able to have children? Are you a fertility expert now? Most of these women don’t have children and are not married.
you are so gross LOL what a joke of a “man”
Oh man the women that you described here as screaming and nagging… well they are screaming and nagging because their so called ‘husbands’ put their energy to make another ‘instaslut’ special but making their wife feel shit about themselves!
Omg that’s too funny I had to reply to your post. This delusional fantasy land that men live in that they blame women for all of the problems in their life. Well maybe these hot Insta girls don’t have to see your flabby guts or don’t have to see you bending over farting with no clothes on. Don’t have to sleep in the bed with you where you’re snoring and farting all night. Maybe these hot girls on Instagram don’t have to wash the skidmarks out of your underpants. They don’t have to put up with your hairy back and hairy butt crack. They don’t have to deal with you going out and getting drunk and coming home and being an asshole. Men always wanna complain about how women are insecure and expect them to pay the bills etc. Immature emotionally vapid men flock towards these Instagram women because it is a fantasy world. You don’t have to put up with her farting in bed either. You don’t have to put up with her period pain and her tiredness after she’s been looking after her children because she’s just a fantasy. Do you think you’re getting a real person, you’re just getting what she wants you to see. Just hilarious that you had this attitude.
You definitely have a point!
I think for men it’s like the digital equivalent of double-glancing another woman while on a date with his girlfriend or wife. And the passing woman endorses it by posting pictures of herself that beg for male attention (which kind of alludes to the bigger issue between females – like why do we feel like we have to compete?) because for her it’s the digital equivalent of stripteasing in public. It’s just rude.
Perhaps if women had some Instamarket to buy into – maybe millions of Hugh Jackman look-alikes fixing broken facets, carrying grocery bags, chopping wood, buying dinner or fiddling under the hood (hehe) – men would understand. For now, we’ll suffer with every like the Instaslut gets.
Hahahha girl you’re a genius:
Perhaps if women had some Instamarket to buy into – maybe millions of Hugh Jackman look-alikes fixing broken facets, carrying grocery bags, chopping wood, buying dinner or fiddling under the hood (hehe) – men would understand.
This is brilliant – we really do need a male equivalent. Anybody up for the job?!
Yes, that would be a good idea butbsad part is, most of us women would look at them once, and move on. These men are on these sites every chance they get. It’s atually crazy, and these idiots buy into this by posting for attention and the men by drooling over this shitake. China’s plan is working, breaking up our integrity, morale amongst many other things.
I have a new blog to shame them… hopefully I can get enough followers and make this a trend to call them out. Its not girls anymore, guys too are guilty of this.
Follow my blog please! And feel free to submit anyone who should be shamed!
http://outinginstawhore.tumblr.com
i think just by calling them sluts you have weakened your own point.
True. Attention whores might be a better word. Have some class and cover your self up.
slut is a derogatory word that attempts to shame women for having sex for fun. its only proper use is in the bedroom or for cheating ex girlfriends.
whore is a necessary word that should never lose its meaning. it means you use sex to extort money or some other kind of gain from sex. so even “attention whore” is not adequate to describe these girls because they get more than attention out of it. they get sponsorship, ad revenue, other financial gain and treat their fans like thirsty ass servants, to fight their battles, buy things on their amazon wishlist, even give them free rent or plane tickets. At least if they were sucking some fucking dick, they’d be giving something tangible in exchange for everything they take from men. For this reason, whore is not a strong enough word, i prefer “parasite”. Because they feed on men’s energy, give nothing back, and could not survive without leeching off a constant stream of desperate adoring idiots.
Omg Ben yes! Parasite is the perfect term! I find my husband following these parasites quite often. It drives me crazy and it causes fights. I was never the kind of woman to stoupe to going through my mans phone until I started seeing these parasites pop up. Which got me curious, they are literally infectious in a way that they cause insecurities and issues inside the relationship. It begs the question everytime hes on his phone what is he looking at. I get that men look at other women fine whatever but to constantly follow it is a problem in my eyes.
Yes
Parasites most definitely !!
Could we also call them
“PARASLUTS”??
Oh my God! The more I read the more I identify !!
I may be late to this but you are on to something- more than you realize. Men are actually too easily fooled by these “Instagram models” who are preying on men’s “visual” needs. The truth is many are high class hookers and I mean that literally. Many are sponsored (see an email for booking?) they accept offers for hundreds-thousands to sleep with men… heard of Bernice Burgos? She was paid $10,000 to have a getaway with Drake. She benefits by gaining fame and money and the world continues to operate as a man’s world. Our husbands, meanwhile, are too easily fooled looking at this from the outside, drooling over implants. Men need to get smarter
And fucking pieces of shit like Drake brag about how they get all the most expensive girls as if that makes them some kind of player. If you’re paying for pussy, you ain’t a player, you’re a trick. I don’t care how many albums you sold. There was a time when rappers knew that.
The whole mentality of this era makes it seem like if girls aren’t selling sex or using it to manipulate men then THEY’RE the ones doing something wrong, like they don’t value themselves enough or some horseshit. If you have sex because you like it or don’t make him buy dinner or jump through hoops to prove he deserves it, girls these days would make you feel like you’re the whore. But that is straight up backwards, you’re a whore if you expect anything but the pleasure of sex in return. Somehow up is down and right is left in this world.
I agree I HATE when my man does this makes me feel not good enough. I kindly unfollow them for him and block them when ever I can. It just SUCKS cuz I dont want 2 b that girl that does that. He never double takes in public with me, but social media is killing my self-esteem. I am using it as motivation to lose weight tho as to say I’ll show you I’m so much more than what your following. Oh my how all hell would break lose if I did the same.
My ex always stared at other women when we were out as well as followed instasluts good riddance to that immature Male whore 🖐🖐
My ex and I broke up because he had “innocently” message an old flame. Going through who he follows on Instagram, there are hundreds of instasluts and it just makes me feel embarrassed to be associated with him. They are visual creatures but it just shows weakness. They can have someone amazing but feel the need to look at other women online. It’s sad
I agree. I think it shows weakness. And a total lack of respect for your partner. I’m so embarrassed too. But hey according to him “I’m crazy”
I got told that I’m insecure crazy blah blah blah. He just was a Male whore
I heard all the same things from my ex…I was insecure, etc. Translation: no accountability, immature, insecure, etc. He liked and followed a 19 year old on TikTok. He was 51 at the time. Shades of Jeffrey Epstein. Tons of Instagram half naked girls in very provocative scenes. Zero respect for him. Man-child.
You do have a point.
My very first argument with my partner was the Instagram sluts 2 years ago. In the past I’ve seen him w**** over them..
We got passed that. After two years,We have a baby together.. But his expectations are high. Most of these women have big lips (fillers) and he’s seen enough of them with big lips and asked me to get lip fillers to make my lips big temporarily. I am insecure and its definitely because of him. He’s back to following all of these Instagram sluts again and says it’s because he’s been following thousands of people recently at random but he’s unfollowed all 2/3,000 people and has 250 left and 50 of those Insta slags remained.
I can’t stop comparing myself. It’s bringing me down.
He’s also a pig. You deserve someone who appreciates you and loves you for you.
Seriously? Cannot believe he asked you to get a lip filler for him. If you decide to do it for yourself that’s fine but to do it just to please someone else, no way.
Just shows you how these instaslut profiles distort people’s minds. Your partner is so obsessed with it that he thinks you now have to look the same as these girls.
I don’t think it’s ok. I am a friggen super wife. Then I find out my spouse, who “isn’t active on socially media” and who has never ever liked a single post of mine, is following local instasluts and strippers. People say “oh it’s only social media it doesn’t mean anything”. Actually it means he’s a disrespectful pig who shouldn’t be looking at other women.
Totally agree! Why don’t ALL the ladies out there do the exact same thing?? Start following hot ass guys, sexy guys that show their assets….eye candy and lots of it! NOW let’s see IF you get a reaction from the men….Men cant handle the shit they expect women to painfully endure. Mirror his behavior. Mirror his attitude. There are lots of hot men out there…. let’s see what the fun is all about!!
They won’t care.
I’ve squealed over Jason Momoa a hundred times. My husband still puts little hearts on pics of instasluts with bare ass cheeks draped on motorbikes
It’s highly unlikely they will change their behavior if you do it back to them because like Mari said, they don’t care. By some divine miracle if they do care, then YOU become the problem for mirroring instead of them admitting that they’re the ones who did it first. It’s a lose-lose situation. You’re better off just leaving without saying anything, you can’t win as a woman in a world where men were taught to do whatever the hell they wanted and nobody ever held them accountable for their actions.
Dump these losers. They don’t deserve relationships!! Stop being so desperate and remove yourself from the relationship and let him drool freely single with his lotion and oil. Seriously men are insanely spoiled these days by women and y’all need to fight back and make them pay. Such low quality and so disrespectful.
I love this comment. Broke up with my 48 year old bf today for following a bunch of girl in their 20s. So fkn gross. Sad part is, I thought he was progressive. That’s how he presented himself. Bunch of lies. Now he can scroll all he wants. Good luck finding someone to replace me *sshole.
To be honest, Gabby that’s what I’ve done. Just followed a whole bunch of shirtless man profiles now. Not sure if my husband would actually bother to check into see who I’m following. Probably not, so not sure if it will have any affect.
Broke up with my man of 9 years for this too, it’s embarrassing cause we don’t to that, it’s disrespectful. I am a fashion model myself and I am a student too & a designer too and it sucks to see that the one you are going to bed with every night follows & likes other girls photos & accounts on the Internet. It’s a big turnoff.
I’m googling other woman’s take on this to see if I’m ‘crazy’ like he says.
It brings up other issues like gender inequality & trust/respect issues.
Hope my comment helps to make your point.
Totally agree with you on this, never have I looked into gender inequalities like I have after dealing with this crap with my ex.
His phone was constantly binging off the hook, girls would constantly pop up on his phone, fb, instagram, snapchat. Se% models would pop up on instagram asking him to click on links, yes most of them are bots but they wouldn’t be coming up if that wasn’t what he was doing over Instagram. He was following a million instamodels + other local hotties. Told me he loved all my qualities but physically I was not what he’d usually go for.
Sex stopped which he blamed on erectile dysfunction. He would constantly be watching p0rn or liking woman all over instagram who were obviously slim & half naked. I hit him up about it told him that he could keep the Insta models but I wanted him to stop liking his hot “friends” pictures because it made me insecure & it felt like it was telling them he liked what he sees. He said he would.
A month later I checked and he was doing the same old thing, I was livid, hit him up about it, then I was called crazy & insecure.
Yes I was insecure because u f&&%^#^ told me you didn’t like my body type and couldn’t finish in bed but could finish watching p0rn and looking at woman on Instagram.
The annoying thing is a lot of these middle aged guys who look at these woman think they actually have a chance with them. Whilst there are real woman by there side who are neglected or ignored because their brains have been programmed to pine for these 18 year olds they’ve watched in p0rn since they were tweenagers
Dump these losers. They don’t deserve relationships!! Stop being so desperate and remove yourself from the relationship and let him drool freely single with his lotion and tissues for the rest of his life. Seriously men are insanely spoiled these days by women and y’all need to fight back and make them pay. Such low quality and so disrespectful.
My bf follows 2000 instaslut/stippers/pros and only 200 friends. He tried to compare it to me reading a message sent to me on a dating site, (bumble, match) in terms of levels of disrespect. Clearly he is reaching. He and I met on a dating site so we both have dating profiles and receive messages because we have not yet come to a decision to shut them down jointly. I don’t follow beefcake men or sexy bearded men or any other sexy attention whore men on IG and there are plenty out there ladies if you really want some revenge, LOL. My IG is for business and my business happens to be music and fashion. I am happy with my body and my looks and he is as well but still he needs to have these women to look at all day long and I am completely over it at this point. I am constantly doing all of the things (for him) that the Instasluts do and it’s clearly not appreciated. I have checked my friend’s husbands and boyfriends profiles and altho I know they LOOK at Instasluts but they don’t FOLLOW them. It’s an issue of respect. And also as a man, the powerful men I know, would never let an Instaslut know that they were thirsty for her, even if they were. Too bad some men are too dumb to figure that out. My man is about to be left with his Instasluts and I hope they live happily ever after.
Dump these losers. They don’t deserve relationships!! Stop being so desperate and remove yourself from the relationship and let him drool freely single with his lotion and tissues for the rest of his life. Seriously men are insanely spoiled these days by women and y’all need to fight back and make them pay. Such low quality and so disrespectful.
Lmaoo omg same same! Giving the whores the attention they want. So I don’t get why they want a gf, to me it seems they want to be single right???
As a man, i’m actually incredibly sick of this. I’m a photographer, and i used to do glamour stuff but drifted away from the fashion industry as i watched this epidemic grow within it. To me, the problem isn’t men mentally cheating or something, but the phenomenon of vapid solipsists and their sycophant apologists. Its the worst example of the emperors new clothes in modern culture, In the eyes of their followers, these girls can do no wrong. They post faux-inspirational quotes and get thousands of men commenting on how brilliant and smart they are (they’re not). They use hoards of men’s attention to bolster their egos, using sex to manipulate them, with a feeling of sexual superiority. These are the girls that at one point in history, would have to sell their bodies on a street corner, and thats their goddamn rightful place, yet this society is so backwards it props them up as goddesses when they should be discarded as the trash they are. They become patreon whores, selling their picture sets, or use their horny followers to pretend they are some kind of ‘influencer’, try to get ad revenue off it. Men could easily just pay for porn, but instead, they spend money trying to see more of these specific women with the unspoken false promise that if they shower them with attention and desperation, they may someday have sex with them. At least a real whore sells a tangible product, demoralized as it may be. Its even more disgusting to sell the “idea” of sex, and reap the benefits of the moral hazard of the internet. Because if these girls strung this many guys along in person, they’d all be rape victims, and they’d all deserve it. What disgusts me the most is how consequence free this social pollution is.
Bravo. Love your take on this.
This comment is so sexist and disgusting. “Let’s not blame the men for mentally cheating and being rude and shitty to their wives, but blame the women for profiting off how slimy and gross men are! They deserve to be raped!” I actually agree it’s disgusting on the part of the women as well, but the men are the ones handing them money for it and disrespecting the real women in their lives.
Porn and men’s sexual objectification of women is way out of hand. While I find their profiles disgusting and distasteful, good on them for giving these men exactly what they deserve from them: nothing.
Couldn’t agree more.. couldn’t beleive how disgusting this article is and the people commenting. Dehumanising at its finest.
You’re taking this personally. Aren’t you secretly attracted to them ? No one deserve to be raped, that’s a sadistic thing to say even whores. The husband are at fault here not those girls.
whores? whores suggests someone who sleeps around not somebody who posts pictures online that are slightly revealing 😳 please grow up and wisen up. Your bitterness is embarassing, you are part of the problem.
I had a friend who used to do this. She literally said you target the desperate men & sell them a dream. She made so much money from doing that & never had se% with any of them.
However, she eventually went into online p0rn though because she got so used to making a huge amount of money from what she was doing. No good, honest jobs wages would ever match it.
I think she had a low key hatred for men due to dad leaving her at a young age & abuse. I think she genuinely enjoyed taking men’s money, she would even laugh about it like they were all duma$$es.
She now realises she has a lot of issues and she is trying to work through them and has gathered quite the following on Instagram speaking out about racism, abuse, LGBQ issues, woman’s rights and mental health issues. She still has OnlyFans tho, however doesn’t make the money she used to.
It’s funny because men will say they hate these types of woman, but yet end up following and drooling all over them on Instagram.
Maybe the wives/gfs of these men who do this, should create their own skanky slutty Instagram accounts for other men to like, drool and comment on.
Yup that’s my next move if behavior cannot be managed
I agree, this is definitely an epidemic. China’s plan is working. What happened to the world built on family, morals, respect,love and trust? It’s all going out the window. The men in the world these days should be ashamed of themselves. I’m sure that most of us wives and mothers old biy some expensive lighting, do our makeup and hair right and take pics too but we are not attention Whor@#. We work, and take care of our families while our middle aged husbands are on tiktok and instagram every chance they get looking at 18 year old shaking their asses for money. It’s really baffling. We live on this incredible planet and can have such a wonderful life, and this crap is all over the place. I called it years ago, social media is the demise of our society. I feel bad for the kids that are growing up with the hopes of having a normal relationship with values and respect. The odds are against them.
My bf does this also. He now has 4 IG accounts. He follows a lot of these “instasluts” and I told him it makes me feel insecure and he apologized and said he would stop using it (yeah right) 10 hours ago he started following another 10 of these people and when I hit him up about it he said “I dont want them, I want you” and told me get over it and stop arguing. To me, its definitely a respect thing
You totally have a point here. I got sick of seeing my bf liking these instaparasites a while back and we had a huge row about it, but to his credit he doesn’t follow them anymore or like them. At least not on the IG account I know about anyway! If he has others at least I don’t know about them. Recently I’ve followed a friend of his and that guy is following these sorts of people every day. I feel so bad for his girlfriend, he’s disrespecting her massively and its affected how I see him as a person now. We all know men are ‘visual creatures’ but that doesn’t excuse sh*tty, childish behaviour in my opinion. They can Google these women or even look at them online if they need to. Following or liking so everyone can see what you’re doing (including you partner and the friends and family of your partner) is just not necessary and incredibly embarrassing
It’s actually refreshing to hear that this is a big issue and many are fed up with it… I was made to feel it was only me and I was making such a big deal out of nothing but I don’t think I am! I have the right to feel a certain way.
For me it’s the fakeness that I cannot tolerate because it’s creating unrealistic expectations for those of us who have real jobs/lives and have to wake at 6am to go about our day on 5 hours beauty sleep without the time to take 101 selfies, it’s so narcissitic and even if I did have all that free time, I’d rather do something for myself, educate my mind, my soul. I’m an attractive woman! I dress modestly, I get approached by men all the time in the street but I don’t feel the need to show myself off to the world for attention, my life has more value than a few cheap likes and I just hate the way it makes me feel, it’s like I’m being compared to this world of fakery and it is a respect issue because I assure you, no boyfriend/husband would be happy with their partner liking 1000’s of hunky male photos. I was tempted to create an account to test this theory.
I understand men are visual creatures but there’s an element of respect that comes into play, admire someone’s beauty but don’t belittle the one you wanted to be with… or they might just walk!
I’m glad I’m not the only one
Yes!!!! I am a straight woman who can appreciate the beauty of the female body, BUT I’m over the titty shots and ass cheeks.
There is only ever one reason for women to post those shots….attention. Of course if you speak up about it you’re hating, if you call them out on being fake (no matter how “real” they are) you’re hating.
I have guy friends who like every single one of these women’s posts, and I just think “what does your girl think of this? How do you think it makes her feel?”
I guarantee she doesn’t feel loved and desired after seeing you like these women’s posts.
Your comment sums it up perfectly for me! I’m a woman that loves and appreciates other women and their bodies.
However, I am also truly sick of walking past my partner and seeing him exit out of instagram at lightning speed or if I do happen to (unfortunately) get a glance, will always end up seeing plethora of perfect, unattainable images of women and their asses…
I ended up going through the people he follows, 90% were these types of accounts including onlyfans p0rn stars.
We discussed it and he unfollowed some (only the onlyfans models, none of the others *sigh*) but the images are still imprinted in my brain and I haven’t felt the same about myself since.
He said he doesn’t have an onlyfans account but I know that’s a lie and it makes me feel so gross that he literally pays money to these women to subscribe to their bits like a f***ing YouTube channel. Especially when I know he goes to watch it in the bathroom while I’m literally in the next room. We’ve been together for 5 years and this is most insecure I’ve ever felt with him.
Having boyfriends following and ‘liking’ these women is certainly obnoxious and gross on their part. But I think there is also a larger issue here of the kind of beauty standards they are perpetuating and making the norm. These kind of accounts are becoming so ubiquitous they are making porn-ifed and photoshopped images normal – what we expect to see when we see a photo of a woman. This is damaging for everyone. It hurts women, who will never, no matter how toned or plumped or waxed will ever be able to live up to a posed just-so and filtered and photoshopped image. And it’s also bad for men who may come to think this is something they should expect from women in the real world. They will never find it.
Seeing more and more photos of women display themselves like this makes it normal. It seeps into our culture and collective subconscious. “This is sexy.” “This is what a desire-able woman looks like.” Even people who know that these photos aren’t real start feeling like to be attractive they have to imitate them. Can you imagine what someone 30 years ago would have thought of this pictures? Women is impossibly plastic-y smooth skin, a tiny waist, giant lips and an impossibly big round bum. Usually wearing lipgloss and a vapid, open mouthed stare. Surely they would have been weirded out at the least.
So glad I’m not alone in this. I’m a newlywed (got married 8 weeks ago) and on getting less than 2 weeks after our wedding, I found out that my husband has an Instagram account I have no idea about used mainly for following these type of girls. We have 2 explosive rows about it because the action makes me feel disrespected and not enough. In his own words, I’m insecure and I have nothing to worry about as he’s had the account for years and he’s an adult that can’t be told what to do. His comment and action has really broken me and it’s making me doubt how confident I am in myself.
Post sexy pics or videos of yourself to a porn site anonymously without interacting with viewers. see how he likes that.
Yasssss Purple911!
This really needs to stop. It is so normalised. It makes me so insecure. Even when a man says “I love you,” if he still follows these women and looks and their bodies, I know he compares them to mine and silently wishes to have that instead of me, an “ordinary” woman.
And it is frightening, because I actually like my body and looks, but this social media thing is messing up my mind. And it is messing up minds of so many women. I wish this changed and men got back to normal. They are so used to staring at womens’ bodies, they don’t appreciate the one woman in their life the way they should and they are losing respect for a woman’s body. It is not special to them anymore. They can go and masturbate with the thought of any women on the internet, it is so easy. I wish this ended and these women got called by their true names, not “instagram models.” Any woman who is mature enough and have a self respect has no need to show boobs or ass publicly just so it gives her a good feeling that she made another man hard.
I agree! I work really hard on my body and do booty band work outs for my ass… and my boyfriend told me he just used Instagram to follow slots. I appreciated his honesty but it really bothers me and IDK why. I don’t even know what to do. I don’t want to tell him what to do but secretly in my mind I’m wondering what he truly thinks of my breasts. I was going to get implants and told him this. I
My boyfriend doesn’t like pictures anymore, after many fights about it. And now I’m a paranoid freak monitoring his activity to catch him liking or adding girls. I did recently snoop and see that he still searches all of these girls and looks at tons of these girls profiles all of the time. He uses social media almost constantly while we aren’t together so it makes me sick to think that he’s just looking at these girls all day if he’s not with me. One of these “Instagram models” used to work with us and he started following her immediately and although he doesn’t like the pictures it still bothers me. Am I being irrational and insecure? I feel like my other friends boyfriends don’t even give a flying f***k about social media and they are busy focusing on their real lives. I think it’s a personality thing and level of maturity that makes some guys more likely to obsess over These girls.
Excuse my excessive use of “these girls” lol
I sent my baby daddy pictures and videos of the actual process of getting a boob implant butt lift or tummy tuck. It looks so disgusting and now every “perfect” body he sees he’ll associate it with how they actually got to look that way. It also made me feel way better
I sent my baby daddy pictures and videos of the actual process of getting a boob implant butt lift or tummy tuck. It looks so disgusting and now every “perfect” body he sees he’ll associate it with how they actually got to look that way. It also made me feel way better
My BF also follows 2000 of these models and has less than 15 followers (all women). It honestly doesn’t bother me. I’m not sure why. He also follows a lot of BBWs. I’m far from BBW. He never comments or likes any of their posts. It truly doesn’t bother me. Now I’m feeling like I should be bothered…
Man here…
It isn’t just Instagram, it’s everywhere. Women everywhere run around in yoga pants, with their fine, attractive bodies on full display. Women walking around in yoga pants? You bet that’s giving me a half-chub in my pants, you bet I’m staring at it like a piece of meat.
You can’t go anywhere or do anything without seeing some fine ass and titties bouncing around, and you bet men are looking and drooling, and in their heads they’re going “AAAAAWWWWOOOOOOOOOOO” like the dog in the cartoons.
El you are not the only one and yes it is everyplace you look. I too have a big appreciation for the female body. Strange men for some reason just don’t do it for me. Now I’m not sure if I was just trained up too loyal (and based on my family history I don’t think that’s it) or if I just love hard but men do not turn my head. I only have eyes for my guy.
Obviously, but would you go up to that woman whilst you’re in a relationship & say AWOOOOOoOoo
No You. Wouldn’t
That’s what a social media like heart or comment means to woman. It’s a respect thing
“Please keep in mind that his wife is gorgeous and works very hard on retaining the same physique she had in high school when they met, after having two children. Granted, I did her a favor and unfollowed them all.” even if she didn’t kesp the same physique..would that give him the right to follow these instagram clones? why are people so impressed by the human body. we’re born,we live,we die
Jess, You’re wrong on the final part of your statement The body is born, that’s correct; we live, that too is correct, we die, that is only partially right,
in that our body dies, but we, our spirit, continues to
live.throughout eternity. WE are in these bodies to make a decision, the requirement is found in the Holy Bible and any Pastor can help you to understand all you must do to obtain that part of your life.
Omg Bible Thumper on an instathot comment section 😄😂😂 you’ve made my evening.
There is no soul.
There is no god.
I was very interested in a man and then I saw his Instagram feed. Lost interest in him quickly. Not all men follow Instagram models, etc. I do not see myself with a man who stares at half naked young ladies on his phone all day long. He can watch porn or look at a few in his private time… but following hundreds of these girls just seems odd to me. A mature man knows better. It is disrespectful and embarrassing.
I love your input!
It’s a complete turn-off for me, I don’t want to be with a thirsty man I want to be with a real man who recognizes a good women and sees the instasluts for what they truly are: female trash, the worst image of women.
Men who follow these pages are so disrespectful of their partners, they try to normalize it like “it’s a guy thing” no. A mature respectful man values himself too much to demean his integrity and drool over an IG whore parasite.
I almost got involved with a loser like this. He is a total narcissistic psychopath… a liar etc. Once I saw his IG account and the whores he follows, I stopped all contact with …. he doesn’t know why I stopped all contact, but all that matters is that I know. He is nothing but a demon and will burn in the lake of fire!!!!
God is already doing some justice cause 2 days ago he broke his left hand… he is left handed.
Hear Hear Fiona. It is both embarrassing and disrespectful but also creepy. I am wondering if these are the men who would be masturbating in parks or out front of school when I was growing up?? Just perverts with sex addictions.
It goes so much deeper than the issue of jealousy. My personal issue with it all is that I simply don’t see the man who I dedicated my life to in the same light especially when he refuses to stop the behaviour and tries to justify his childish bullshit and all the while he’s truly putting in a huge effort to make me out to look like the one who is 1) being unreasonable, 2) is insecure and does not have a valid point.
I have stuffed it down for months now but these feeling always resurfaces of how much this disgusts me and how it leaves me feeling inadequate. Now here is the messed up part. Based on feedback, looking in the mirror and at my age (almost 50) I consider myself to be intellectually and physically still a pretty good catch. As a matter of fact it was only 5 years ago that I stopped getting carded at the wine store so I am confident in how I am viewed physically. I however simply don’t feel the same way about myself as I did before I became aware of this behaviour and I certainly do not look at him in the same way knowing that for some reason he just can’t seem to let it go no matter how it makes me feel and I am beginning to believe he can not love me the way he says he does or he would stop the behaviour.
Another huge issue that he is unaware of is the fact that when we are about to get intimate for example, in my mind I’ll see his profile picture across from a “like” of some other woman’s ass that I am now mentally comparing in hopes that he thinks mine is better. Most important and I wonder if he even knows, I am loosing interest in him sexually because of all of these mental pictures I have to fight just in order to put a smile on my face in order to be able to make love to him.
Every one of these comments are so validating to me as I suffer in silence because there is no one I can talk to about this. Family and friends would just tell me to leave or kick his womanizing ass to the curb and I can not talk to him because my request for respect has always been received with a heaping serving of defensiveness.
I have asked him on several occasion when we argue if he would like for me to put my tits and ass all up over Instagram (of course I’m not going to) for other men to see and the obvious answer is no. Then I always couple it with a follow up question asking “and how about if I were to follow a hundreds of half naked men and like and comment of their photos” (and tag him in it lol) how it would make him feel about himself and about me and I am greeted with a great big hell no I would not want you doing that.
We have given our men too many free passes as far as I am concerned. I am completely guilty of handing out way too many get out of jail free cards. I have even went as far as to say I don’t care if you look at porn or just look in general but my male still feels the need to utilize this app for a daily dose of gross liking and following his way all the way to Lonely Lane because he was not wise enough to know that the woman who loves him and is always there for him is actually hurting in silence just to be with him. I personally am completely fed up, It truly is an epidemic and it s time that our men smartened up!
Most of us woman who are worthy of respect are not making unreasonable requests. We give our men the benefit of the doubt and lots of rope to play with but when it comes down to a valid request from someone they claim to love then it is not too much to ask to not be publicly humiliated by the one we love and who claims to love us back.
Mandy, I feel the same way as you do and this behaviour is hurtful, disrespectful and cheating in my book. My requests for removal of sluts and women in general from his Facebook account has been met with the same type of responses, it is I with the issue, not him. It is not us, it is them, their behaviour is wrong. It is beyond “normal”. Best wishes to you for the future.
A few months ago I found out my long distance boyfriend pretty much had some internet whores on his twitter account. The kind that also posts fully naked pictures for money. This lead me to look around a little bit more and it was the same on Twitch where he was following more than a handful of camgirls that just shake their breasts and bend over with their yoga pants on. I literally had a panic attack. never in my life have i felt so disgusted, embarrassed and most of all insecure because i already hate my body. Now you would think HE should be embarrassed, but when i confronted him about it he didnt take me seriously and basically made it clear that it wasnt a big deal and i should just shut up about it. Of course i couldnt because it was making me feel like my stomach was twisted so i ended up talking to him about it again and he had a more understanding reaction. He unfollowed MOST of the accounts and said he wouldnt do it anymore. It didnt take long for him to refollow one of these girls that i specifically pointed out because obviously this whole situation turned me into a paranoid lunatic that checks 20 times a day. I just found out his (private) instagram looks the same, only the content on there is much worse and i feel like i will never be able to be in a relationship ever again. The fact that he is incapable of not following and drooling on these internet strippers for the person he says he loves makes me feel hopeless and i just wasted 1.5 years of my adult life on a grown man who still cant control his dick. Meanwhile ive been over here not even being interested in any other man. Let alone masturbate to pictures of someone that isnt the person i love. And he’s over there thinking about putting his dick in these girls that leave very little to the imagination. I wouldnt be surprised if he was also talking to them.
I feel like i dont belong on this planet.
You sound just like me. I know your pain. It’s such a punch in the gut.
I feel the same too, I loved a man who keep on following and liking fake boobs of sexy models but he claimed his faithful and honest and God-fearing too. And he said I was only insecure. It’s below the belt and degrading for me and made me feel not enough just because I don’t have those fake boobs and blonde hair. Yes my body don’t look like a playboy models but I do running and yoga that makes me in a good shape and physique . My love for him endured it all and had accepted it but as time goes by, I felt disrespected and I know I cannot lived up to his imagination and expectations. I have to let go. Not my lost but he lost someone who had truly love him.
Me too, too good for this sick world. I think all of us should become friends and stick together. Let the pigs have the who$&@.
I with ya lol
Someone had mentioned something of meeting a female equivalent well I think I have found it. Many men feel that there is no harm in looking at these Instagram models day in and day out because they are not touching them. But ask them if they are OK with their girlfriends or wives posting sexy pictures or nude pictures of themselves online anonymously for random men to admire. See how pissed off men get at the thought of some other man jerking off to their wife’s or girlfriend’s photo. despite the woman not communicating with anyone despite the woman not interacting with anyone nor being sexually turned on at all. just getting a harmless ego boost by a few 100 likes and validation from positive comments of impressed viewers. Why is it OK for them to become secretly sexually involved with a porno masturbate have an orgasm to 1000s of sexy nude women when men are supposedly such visual creatures? that would be the worst thing they could possibly do if they are in a relationship. That is the only thing I think that could cause men to potentially feel the same kind of insecurities women feel when we object to porn.
So happy I found this post it made me feel a lot better about this issue in my relationship. My boyfriend who I love more than anything used to do the same- I used to go on his account and unfollow them. He pulled the “you’re being insecure and jealous, it’s harmless”. I told him it made me feel shitty that when I look through his feed all I see is breasts and butts hanging out of bikinis and crazy thin stomachs. He stopped following them and doesn’t like any more posts, but sometimes I’ll still see things on his feed that tick me off. I still think about him following all these girls, it did some damage to my already low self esteem. I’ve struggled with my body and eating since I was a girl and I’ve begun to hate my body and my stomach again knowing that I’m being compared to girls like this. I love my boyfriend but I feel so disrespected and that I will never be enough. It sucks when you give SO much of yourself to someone, your body and 24/7 love and attention, yet they feel the need to look at half naked girls bodies on the side? The fact that that is normalized is fucked up. What happened to men who have some goddamn self restraint and curiosity.
Oky so here goes. I am 30 years female. Attractive nice butt and body. I used
To be a stripper. I have two kids now and my
Body
Is still banging! I did the same to him.
He followed porn actresses. So did I. Big black males with huge cocks.
Get so mad and u followed
Them with for me. Whenever we are out I notice
He still double takes at other woman. I told him how it
Made
Me feel and he deleted his Instagram. He wants us both
To not have SoCial media. I feel like he
Should control himself. He has a low sex drive and I don’t. So I think he masturabates to porn. Fine so will I then. But now there is Facebook whores. Snap chat whores. Tik- Tok. There at the gym. He wants to go the gym. I won’t go. Mind u
I am hot! It never ends
Hi,
I came across this post because the link was sent by a friend. I have to say, the only thing I find problematic here is women calling other women sluts. (Or whores in the comment section.) Also, who cares if your guy is following the accounts you described? Being in a relationship doesn’t mean to be blind. And also, how is following them disrespectful? It’s not cheating. Besides, you totally forgot to mention that there are quite similar accounts that target a female audience. Double standard much? Maybe recommend your friend to check out @hotdudeswithdogs.
They are all sluts.
The men who do the same, sluts.
The women who do the same, sluts.
It seems to me you’re more concerned with the choice of language than the message being conveyed to people in relationships that it’s okay to be stimulated that much or that it’s okay for young men and women to want attention for being sluts rather than their future, their education, their self worth.
What about hotdogs of the dudes?
I feels the same as most women on here. If I’d have know the man I started dating was following hundred of these “models” I would probably have not started going out with him. It’s a huge turn off! He also thinks there’s nothing wrong with it and thinks it’s about jealousy and trust. Which it is not. It’s disgusting, disrespectful and degrading. He even has daughters that see him liking these post and following them. Which is all the more gross. After several discussions and promises to delete them, he has not. I’m about done. If that’s more important to him, than our relationship, then he can be happy with his instasluts and I’ll move on. At 52 he needs to grown the f$@! Up!!!!
It is terribly embarrassing for me. My boyfriend will go to show me something on his feed and like magic, the instasluts show up. I just want to hide. He tries to make excuses and it is so pathetic. I really don’t know what to do.
I will not date instagram slut followers.. I’m shocked at the men in my age group 50’s following their daughter’s friend’s accounts which are soft porn.. these are young 13 to 16 year olds.. really too bad these girls think the only value they have is their bodies.. why would you want your friends dad gawking at you? This is not respectful of others.. And they wonder why they’re divorced..
Wow. This thread hit the mark for me. My bf recently followed some woman who claims to be an ‘artist’ in a city very close to us.. fast forward a few days and apparently she is direct messaging him pictures of her tits in a ‘bondage’ scaenario. When confronted about it I am the bad guy because it is all just “classy” photography. I don’t blame her.. I am sure she has no clue he is in a monogamous relationship – or does she? I messaged her and told her to back the eff off.. did she? Nope. I think I deserve better and at the end of the day.. fuck him. Have fun with the instahos.
It could also lead to a sex/porn addiction, which is a mental health issue. Forget about the jealousy & insecurities ladies…I would be more concerned if my bf or husband had a sexual addiction of some sort or may have been abused as a child himself. Following over 100 provocative insta accounts is a red flag as far as his mental health
Thank you for posting this, I know I’m late to the party but my husband has just recently began (as far as I know) doing this and ot makes me feel so damn disrespected I literally get sick to my stomach. I got so fed up I wrote a huge message in lipstick on the bathroom mirror (where I know his self centered ass was bound to see it) asking him to please stop messaging other women on social media. I gave my opinion on these “women” they have absolutely zero talent so they contour their faces and show their tits and ass to everyone to achieve some type of validation. It’s disgusting that there are so many females who do this, but it’s also disgusting that men who are in committed relationships will drool over them. My husband was always preaching about how he hated sluts and he’s glad I was a good girl, but now all he does is look at sluts. It’s disheartening.
Coming late to the party on this one but glad I came across it.
I’m a guy who’s came to the conclusion that if I start to date someone I’ll take one swift look at their Instagram page and if it’s selfies + thirsty guys galore I’m out and not looking back.
I’ve ended things with two women early on after they decided to follow back some thirsty guys and give them a couple of likes.
It’s extreme, and I might be old fashioned, but for me there’s no difference between giving a like to a photo and going up to someone in a supermarket and shouting “ohhhhh yeaaaaahhhhh”.
Daryl, if only all men were like you!
I like that! That’s what I’ll be doing going forward! Thank you Daryl.
Well Daryl, I hope that you find a lovely respectful woman who will appreciate your decency. I wish the man I had was in the same mind as you. Best wishes.
More men like you is what we need. Maybe start a channel directed towards teenage boys about morals, values and integrity. They may have a chance.
We all need a man like Daryl!
Instagram has always been a watering hole for chump-like males. While it can be a great tool for picking up chicks, Instagram is single-handedly facilitating the rise to fame of thousands of (talentless) women. I’m here to even a playing field that has descended into chaos. I’m here to stop the chump.
The chump is the guy who actively follows girls on Instagram. He likes all their photos. He “slides” into their DMs to tell them they’re “gorgeous.” He repeatedly comments on their pictures with rocket ship or fire emojis while having hilariously low chances of hooking up with the girls.
If you engage in this sort of chump behavior, stop it right now. If you happen to be friends with a chump, I insist you make it known to them, in no uncertain terms, that they’re hurting the common man’s chances while adding fuel to the fires of bitchdom. They must understand that it’s a zero-sum game. Here are a few things to point out to your chump friend(s).
1. Don’t follow a girl who won’t follow you back
Don’t follow this girl
Know what you’re up against; a girl with 10k followers won’t follow back a guy with 149 followers, unless they know him personally (or actually give a shit about him). By following these sirens, as alluring as they are, you feed their narcissism and become just another casualty in the trenches of social media chumpery. Don’t be a number.
2. Use the like button wisely
If you toss a cute girl a like, go MIA for a while. Don’t feed the bird. This keeps her guessing, or at least piqued. Insta-broads are reactionary creatures, so give them space to react. Sure, some other chump, or even a real dude, could take your place but, in a market this saturated, you need to stand out. There’s no guarantee that this will get her attention, but it’ll definitely prevent you from looking like a beta-chump cuck-zombie, and feeling like one too.
3. Never comment on her photos
Don’t comment on this photo
Unless you’ve whipped up the ultimate panty dropper or are currently the face of the new Hugo Boss line, I suggest you leave the Instagram comments to her fake girlfriends. For the chump that insists on communicating their despicable horniness in this overtly pathetic way, here are three likely scenarios:
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She’ll (coldly) respond to your comment because she thinks you’re an awkward little boy and she feels embarrassed for you.
She will flatly ignore the comment.
She will respond to someone else’s comment while ignoring yours.
Stay away from the comment section, period.
4. Stop watching her lame Stories
To the men who view every single one of a girl’s Instagram stories, what are you accomplishing? The app tells her who views each story. It’s as if you’re lurking in the shadows stalking her. This removes any chance of her respecting you. You can watch the odd story of hers, but keep yourself busy with developing yourself instead and you won’t even have time to exhibit such thirsty behavior.
5. Don’t encourage your friends
If you have a group chat with friends of yours, don’t be the chump who posts pics of half-naked females all day long. If you have a friend who does, kindly tell him he’s a loser in that tone of voice you use when you’re joking but not joking.
A buddy of mine was notorious for this, and I honestly can’t remember the last time he hooked up with a girl. Subconsciously, he’s telling himself that these girls are above him in terms of social status and attractiveness. Also, what kind of a man posts photos of a girl for other men to drool over? It’s unbecoming of a gentleman, sounds more like a chump to me.
Conclusion
It’s important to remember that there is nothing masculine about salivating over a girl’s Instagram profile. Women posting t & a selfies in bikinis, lingerie, or yoga pants have found a way to steal a living largely thanks to social media chumps.
Apparel, nutrient supplement, and pretentious tea companies are some of the many businesses that are willing to sponsor women with large followings to advertise their products. This is how the free market works. I can’t blame women for taking advantage of a capitalist system in which everyone is entitled to spend their money however they wish. The fault and responsibility falls upon the hunched shoulders of chumps. Without their attention, not as many girls would have such large and largely undeserved social media audiences. They would be forced to work normal jobs that benefit society.
So so soooo many chump men in the world, My own boyfriend does it and it p*sses me off so much, but the way I was treated in my last relationship where I was made to feel crazy for getting annoyed or upset about this stuff puts me off even mentioning it this time – what’s the point?
First, thank you for posting this dialogue. Knowing how people, especially men, interact with their social media is enlightening.
It’s such a drama, isn’t it? The acts of following versus not following, liking versus not liking, commenting versus not commenting. The truth is it’s very passive-aggressive and manipulative, on the side of both parties. It doesn’t sound like anyone is really happy in the pantomime of it all. More so, an act that consumes a person’s time and disparages their sense of self worth. I don’t want that for any of you! So two good questions for anyone to ask themselves when they’re caught in destructive behavior is ‘why am I continuing to do this’ and ‘what is in my power to change’?
It would help to step back from our online personas and see social media playgrounds for what they are; the virtual version of junior high. Who in their right mind would want to relive that shiz?
I propose to all of you out there: graduate from junior high. Stop following strangers online (AKA stalking people IRL – which is a crime, by the way). Stop playing the attention game and fueling the stress. Somewhere social media users made agreements with themselves that this is how they would interact with other humans. But is it an ironclad agreement or one you are still willing to uphold?
Consider that online social platforms exist because a computer programmer decided to write some code and invite others to addictively play the game they created. Who are these programmers, anyway? Are they sociologists, psychologists, doctors? Do they have any expertise in the health and well-being of people? Of course not. So why take their version of ideal human communication as scripture and continue to be caught in the tide of online misery these accounts inflict on people?
It’s time to stop torturing ourselves by engaging with other people who are also merely playing a game, people who sadly don’t know how to have mature connections with real people in the real world.
So about this real world… if social media is ultimately about connecting, right, then how healthy are our connections if they cause relationship betrayal on par with the comments in this thread?
Research shows how our brains change during real life interactions with other people. We regulate our capacity for empathy when we make eye contact with others. We match brain patterns as we listen to a storyteller or participate in a class or meeting with colleagues increasing our retention of details. Our brains release happy, stress-reducing dopamine after sex with another real person, in contrast to the opposite effect on men who masturbate to porn and develop erectile dysfunction. What we know is that humans need healthy person-to-person interaction to lead happy and satisfying lives.
So, if you hate the betrayal by your boyfriend’s Insta addiction or feel angry and beat down from being manipulated by the Instragram sexpots you follow online, you can stop the madness. Cut the cord. Cancel your subscription then go out and meet real people. If that’s hard to do, then you get to innovate new ways to make those connections happen! Join a gym or a hiking club. Or just talk to the person making your sub sandwich instead of texting in line. You’re brain and body are aching for person-to-person connection! You got this!
Really quite saddening that so many women are having this issue. This behaviour should not be normalized, especially for men in committed relationships who claim they love their women. I envy the women that don’t allow this to bother them. But I’ve tried and it is not possible, I wish I could turn my head the other way and not give energy to such immature harmful actions of following and consuming these sexualized imagines. These Instagram girls that bare their face tuned figures are creating content for these men, and I wish I could do the same just to get back at my man for doing this to me. I have confidence, I have talent and I workout a lot, I know my worth. I will NOT be used as a doormat, and I do not appreciate the disrespect from somebody who claims their love for you when they are constantly consuming these images and objectifying other women. It makes me cringe. I want to puke. I want to be single. Fk these players.
@Kat
Amen.
Wrote something related on the topic!
http://dbagdating.com/2019/06/can-gold-digging-be-feminist.html
Stop nagging so much ladies and just leave the guys. If you don’t want to leave them because you have kids with them or are still dependant upon them financially, then just shut up, grin & bear it until you get independently financial and then just run along once you can.
You are mostly just using your husbands if you do stay though you know. So you are no better morally than these instagirls. Parasites yourselves really. Just like these instagirls are.
Kids don’t need to be around an unloving couple as an example to raise them if you haven’t realized this. It’s better to be separated if these guys don’t love you anymore.
Just face the fact that these guys are honestly looking at these other women because, in their minds, you are just too far past the point of absolute boredom to them. Like eating the same food day after day after day. That’s really all that it is about. Some guys don’t mind looking at the same woman day after day. Others will not tolerate just looking at one woman after a lengthy amount of time. These guys do it so openly because they know that more than likely the fact remains that you aren’t going anywhere. You don’t have the guts to just hit the road.
You women that stay with such men are nothing but losers. You are bigger losers than the instagirls that you b!tch about…. because you stay. Just grow a pair and leave, or just shut up and stay.
I can’t stand how pathetic you women sound. You are just as pathetic as these guys. Maybe you ladies actually really deserve men like this.
Clearly written by an instahoe 😂
Nah… written by a true incel.
Wow, “Animal” – that handle says a lot about how emotionally and grammatically advanced you are. Something tells me you aren’t merrily typing this in the arms of a lucky gal.
I have been with my boyfriend for 6 months. He doesn’t post on insta but def likes to use it to mine for hoes! When we first started dating I noticed maybe 10 slut accounts but he unfollowed the porn stars when we made it official so I thought we had a silent understanding. After a particularly grueling week of bending over backward for him, I see he has just decided to follow 2 gross slut accounts. I’m talking stripper heels, fake tits, nude. I told him I would not stand for him following these types of accounts or liking these types of posts. He agreed and unfollowed and that was that. I know he was thinking I was being a bit irrational but enough is enough ladies time to bring the hammer down. Men out here are becoming so desensitized to real women because they consume so much of this material that they have to take viagara in there 20’s! It’s an epidemic and it’s not normal. No man of mine will be conducting himself this way on the Internet.
My millenial sisters, here’s the bottom line.
Looking at porn, whether it’s sexy Instagram profiles, a porn website or even a freakin’ polaroid, isn’t good for a relationship. A man has every opportunity to decide how he conducts himself online and in the real world – and these two should match. Which means, a man in a committed, monogamous relationship decides that porn isn’t a part of his life unless he is co-consuming it with his partner with their permission.
Considering that by the age of 18 over 90% of boys have consumed pornography online, it’s no wonder so many of you have spoken up about your partner’s unfaithful behaviors. What this statistic is saying is that when you form a relationship with a man it is most likely that you are inheriting a man whose has normalized for the use of online porn for himself and doesn’t have any skills to regulate his behavior related to this addiction. Over ninety percent. We’re all in the same boat, ladies.
What to do?
The best way to restoring your self-worth is to decide what is acceptable to you and communicate this to your partner. If you want him to delete his Insta account, make that known. The big B in the room isn’t you, my sister. It’s Betrayal. And looking at other women’s bodies and consuming their sexuality passively is a distinct act of betrayal. In addiction recovery, the person needs to stop abusing. And in this case, the substance he is abusing is porn.
Next, suggest counseling if he wants to continue sleeping in your home then check in to see if he goes. Have him print out his appointment list for you and give it to you. This isn’t your responsibility to make him go. He has to take his own responsibility for restoring your trust. If he does eventually start going regularly have him give you his benchmarks to measure his progress. You might need to see a counselor yourself to unpack the feeling of mistrust and re-establish your own self worth.
Getting help for addiction is the first step to recovery. My hope is that sharing this sheds some light on the problem of porn addiction. And yes, stalking sexy women on Instagram is porn addiction.
Best of luck in life and love everyone!
My husband screenshots instasluts, sometimes he takes pictures of me too (either wearing something he likes on me or simply when I’m sleeping in a cute/funny position). But the screenshots of these random girls he calls “random bitches” I know he’s not gonna leave me for any of them, but it still bothers me.
He would if he could…
Why are comments not approved. What’s the matter? Did what I say hit a nerve or something?
So my dude has two accounts. A personal, and a photography account. Since we got together, he’s used his personal less and less. And uses his photography account. Constantly. On both profiles he follows over 2K insta sluts and “models”.
Every time we hang out and then we are apart, he immediately goes on his other account and follows and likes naked women and “models” and local slutty girls. Which honestly pisses me off.
I’m so glad this thread is here because it confirms that I’m not the only one who is annoyed by this. It is disrespectful and so embarrassing that my man does this and everyone can see it.
It doesn’t make me feel jealous, per say, it makes me feel undesired or not good enough.
It would be different if he was searching for some models to shoot for photography but that doesn’t even seem to be the case. It seems like it’s just to do it!
I brought it to his attention and he assured me it was not anything to worry about. Now he feels like I don’t trust him.. which sucks because I do.. he said he’d delete the girls he follows but then that makes me feel like a “crazy girlfriend”
I don’t know wether to feel like I’m putting my foot down and letting him know that shits not gonna fly, or if I’m being an insecure wack job???
Whatever happened to the days of respecting your partner and not even having social media accounts to access sleazy people online. Ugh makes me sick.
i have the same problem i don’t know whether to shut up or confront him about it because every time i complain to him i feel dumb and annoying. i know at the end of day he loves me he cherishes me he always tells me but i still feel that need to ask him like “hey the stuff you’ve been seeing and liking in ig shows up for me too and it makes me uncomfortable” it makes me feel like i’m not good enough and that i’ll never achieve a body like that. we’re long distance so i guess he needs that stuff since we can’t really see each other. but i try my best to make him happy
I don’t know when this was posted but I’m sure I’m incredibly late to respond this, however, my boyfriend and I just got into another argument over this topic. I know my boyfriend loves me so much and that he’ll never cheat on me but when I come across some ig thot and see that he follows her my blood literally boils. No, he has not followed any girl or liked any girls photos since we started dating but nonetheless, the fact that he’s even exposed to all these half naked, even NAKED women is so frustrating. I told him about this hoping he’d unfollow these girls but no that wasn’t the case. I just personally think if you’re in a committed, serious relationship there should be no reason to engage in this. Like all these other people who have responded, it makes me feel like I’m not good enough as I know for a damn fact I do not weigh 110 pounds and have huge tits. I wish men would understand how awful it feels to see that your partner is exposed to stuff like this. It’s just a shame because he’s the most perfect man ever and I really thought he’d be the one to understand something like this but sadly not. But thank you for posting this, at least I know I’m not crazy or alone in this. Instagram is the devil.
My boyfriend does this. Just makes me look like a fool on my part because now MY boyfriends name is displayed as liked under these girls pictures. I’m not sure what’s so great about a girl who has shown her body to the entire world. I thought men liked girls who were modest but maybe I am wrong. Thinking about starting a new IG page and posting some slutty pics because after all, that’s what he likes. I’ve tried talking to him but he just calls me crazy. Really fucking sucks to be honest with you :/
I’ve really struggled to find anything anywhere expressing distaste let alone the horror I feel about the normality of these instasluts. I felt really upset when I discovered my sweet boyfriend had been following a bunch of them and liking their pathetic selfies and I feel really stressed about my teenage sons being bombarded with all this. I know it’s my personal issue but it really has affected me! My main issue is that it feels like it’s only me who finds it horrendous.. that it’s all harmless … I feel so much better reading your thoughts on why, no, it really does not feel ok. I feel personally degraded and depressed at what a shitty use women are using of the freedom of expression totally denied to women in other parts of the world. Women just allowing men to fantasise and masturbate about them and upset other people’s relationships. Well, let’s see how you instasluts feel when the new generation of sluts come along and you’re all menopausal … they’ll probably be slut holograms by then .. get a taste of your own sad slutty medicine ( oooh all this venom is therapeutic!)
Totally agree, this must be ruining so many good relationships. One thing is for certain, looks fade with age!
My boyfriend doesn’t follow instasluts, he’s a body builder himself, he was following a handful of female body builders. And I know this is a sports, however some of the poses are very distasteful and I can’t help everytime they flex those glutes far out of their tiny thongs, what must be going to through my boyfriends mind. He’s also prefers booty, as he mentioned a few times and I don’t have much, not like those female trainers he works out with at the gym. I did tell him he makes me feel uncomfortable and he has unfollowed most of their accounts, however it still shows up on his feeds and all the male bodybuilders hes following are posting pics with almost naked female bodybuilders. I feel like we’re losing all sense of normality. The women look gross he still talks to them at the gym because they have common interest and share the same passion in life.
I met a ‘sweet’ guy online some two years ago and he totally sweet talked me so much so that I started liking him. He has two lives with this fake delusional modest life reserved for me and a secret life I had no idea about until I started going through his loves and likes on fb and insta. I think I’ve seen everything now like over 2k nude and semi nude women in all positions and his comments.. I have never associated with anyone like him in my life and I can’t believe I let him in my life which would have never happened if I’d known the reality. I feel so embarrassed; he is just using me but he didn’t get anything from me either and was okay with it because the other girls were gratifying him. He’s such a low life and now I really feel sorry for him and pray one of his loves fucks him over bad.
I am 100% on board. When I am sitting next to you on the couch, fully ready and willing to go, but I look over and I see some slut with her tits out on his phone…. nope.
Throughout the comments and original post, I hear fear of abandonment. Women make excuses for and accept some level of infidelity in doing so. Women need to stop tolerating this emotional/sexual abuse. We need to stop excusing perverted and disrespectful behavior. I repeatedly read the phrase “Men need…”, which goes to show how pop culture has brainwashed women to believe our only value is our sexual appeal. I hear a mob of women trying to compete with models because they are afraid of being abandoned by sleazeballs. I beg every woman that had been part of this thread to consider having more respect for themselves. You are all worth love for what you give to the world which is a unique set of personal/social/emotional/tangible attributes. Stop objectifying yourselves! In my relationship, I found out years in that my partner used pornographic images to masturbate despite what we had. I said I was leaving. He has been in therapy for a year trying to regrow his brain after 20 plus years of consistent porn use and that’s the only reason I am staying. The behaviors you are discussing are not recognized for what they represent. Stop endorsing men’s “need for novelty.” Insist men reciprocate love, honor and respect for you! We are worth more than this culture demonstrates and we are collectively part of the problem if we are not setting boundaries!
women have the freedom to post whatever the f they want anywhere they want. Objectification is done by ignorant people that usually dont know how to treat women. Stop saying women are objectifying themselves you are part of the problem that people over sexualise everything 🤚
a woman posts a selfie – not an object
woman posts a picture half naked – not an object :))
woman posts fully clothed – not an object
woman goes out wearing revealing clothes – guess what, thats right still not an object
I cant beleive my eyes at how rude and ignorant people are and a lot of you are woman yourselves. Have more respect for yourselves and other females, in a world where 97% of woman are sexually assaulted in their lifetime you would think you would stick together and take a stand against being objectified and not still slut shaming women online .
I don’t even have Instagram and I find it a total violation of your relationship if you’re on a public platform like that liking pictures of other girls. Not acceptable. Most guys do look at porn, but it’s in private and nothing you talk about. Instagram is different in that you’re kind of shoving your lust in your partners face and making them feel insecure for no reason. I just don’t think it’s appropriate behavior in a relationship.
You have a very good point. The issue here is that most men and even women now are addicted to porn and trust me, it is a thing and has become a huge problem today where thousands of men are seeking help because it is destroying their marriages but still its an addiction so many don’t want to admit. It’s not only an addiction but it obviously devalues your relationship and makes a girl feel that she is not enough or inadequate. This is far beyond a jealousy thing, it’s an actual full blown problem. Trust me, it destroyed my past relationship so I have first hand experience and it was terrible. People couldn’t believe it because not only am I very sexually active, they say I look like those girls without the photoshop but it’s never enough if your partner has a problem. It gets to the point where he cannot even perform anymore and this addiction is worse for women because it rewires the brain so much it affects a man physically and thus, can destroy your intimacy. I am not a jealous person either but when these “instamodel” accounts are constantly updating your boyfriend’s feed with more and more photos, it easily becomes an addiction to where the more they see, the more they follow and they more they need to consume. This shit is backed up scientifically and you can google it yourselves, instagram feeds that addiction part of the brain because the images have the same effect. It can be extremely destructive so no you ladies aren’t being crazy or jealous because this is a huge thing that nobody wants to talk about, but dont take my word for it…google porn addiction, instagram etc. its all linked and many men are desperate to stop, thanks to them for admitting to the problem. Porn basically has the same effect on the brain as cocaine, it rewires the brain and makes you crave more. Just google it and you’ll see lots of credible material. One of my favourite youtube videos is “the great porn experiment” and the website “your brain on porn”
Thank you for this forum, I have recently discovered that my husband has been looking and following porn and girls on Instagram. I’m 49 and so is he, I feel so betrayed and now I feel even older and uglier after seeing the girls on Instagram I can’t compete with that now, in fact I never could! Over the last couple of years our sex life has diminished and a couple of years ago I thought he must be having an affair as he became less interested in me and getting up earlier to go for bike rides and simply not being around much. And then when we would be intimate he couldn’t keep an erection so I thought it was about me, but now I’m suspicious that it’s been due to looking at too much porn. He’s been on Instagram a long time so who knows how long this has been going on. I’m trying not to make rash decisions but I’m not sure if this situation can be repaired. I pity the younger generation that have all of this free to access and how this is affecting their young brains.
Hie.
Am glad that you were happy atleast till you 49. I am just married. I am 29. My man not only watches porn and follow insta sluts he also sends their links and sex videos and pictures to his friends who are married. This is so turn off. And I have decided to not to get pregnant and give him baby. BECAUSE I WIL NOT RUIN MY BODY FOR SOMEONE WHO DON’T CRAVE MY BODY. I am young n beautiful now and still this is his behaviour. Imagine after child I may not keep up with my body so he would literally go and sleep with someone else on my face. Men following girl models on Insta are potential cheaters. Mind it.
I haven’t seen sex drive mentioned by anyone yet. Now I know mine is being inflated by parasite usage, but in general I’ve always had a high sex drive before I ever started using things like Instagram to follow more sexy type stuff. If I avoid those stimulations, my drive still makes me want some release in usual time frame.
So laying that out is leading me to my main point – some people may be in a relationship where their sex drive is not being satisfied. This is what direct porn then helps you to satisfy, because being horny for extended periods is noooot fun.
Good but extreme example – I was hospitalized for severe brain trauma and other injuries for two months. I mentally was not there for the first month and literally have no memory of that time. Month two when I was mentally more myself and had the ability to remember things, I was in therapy for many things and had cute nurses doing that. I had to deal with raging hard ons just from subconscious things going on, while consciously not even vaguely thinking sexual things.
As we all know, we guys are more visual creatures in this regard. What was happening to me falls inline there, but I’m pointing out what happens if you don’t meet a biological part of you. Imagine your bf with you grocery shopping, and then he’s hit with an undesired, noticeable boner for all to see when he sees something sexually stimulating (that he’s trying to avoid; or may not be but that is a stronger relationship issue piece). That’s not him emotionally cheating or what have you, it’s an example of sexual drive not being satisfied. Now whether that drive is sourced badly is another thing. And to be clear, this isn’t an only male thing, I’ve dated some girls with crazier sex drives than mine.
So main thing I’m trying to point out is people have differing sex drives and if they’re not being satisfied, it can lead some of the wonky stuff. So what you need to have talks about is that, and then is the usage of sexual related things in more “normal” things the root cause, or a symptom? You can definitely end up in a catch 22 where usage of these things is to satisfy your drive but then you end up needing more because of that habit formation – your body has been trained to think it’s normal. Just essentially requires self mental training to get away from that, and a committed relationship can help absolutely there. But only pointing fingers and being upset and needing immediate cut and dry absolutes is how you hurt yourself and/or your partner, and even end that relationship without any real progress at the issue.
I have a high sex drive & my ex told me he had a low sex drive. He would experience ED and could never quite finish. He was only 35 yo. He would constantly turn me down for se%.
I then found out later on down the track he was watching p0rn twice a day & also following hundreds of half naked Insta models. I think I’m most cases it’s not a “drive” issue
Okay but is it bad for me to judge someone I am not even dating for doing this? In my eyes the most ideal man would be one who doesn’t follow girls who post provocative photos, even while single. If they do, then that shows me what they are into and I’m obviously not that, so how could I ever try to date them? I would love to keep these standards when beginning a relationship with someone but nowadays it feels like all guys follow these pages while single or even in a relationship..
7 months pregnant just got put on medical leave by my dr and I start having more time on my hands. I discover that my husband of 13 years has not one but 2 instagram accounts with slutty girls on them. One with only ugly pictures of me occasionally scattered in and another with only pictures of himself where the majority of people he was following were these accounts. We got into several huge fights where he ended up blaming me because I dont pay enough attention to him and threatened to sell the house and leave me with 2 kids. He deleted those accounts completely but has an account with just pictures of our cat and he is following girls on there and liking pictures of almost naked women with huge butts and when I call him out on it he “doesnt remember liking that picture and it must have been by mistake” but later he yells that I’m overreacting because it’s a bot account of random women like thats supposed to make me feel better. Then he says I’m lucky I got pregnant with our son because otherwise he would’ve dumped me and he wouldnt have “helped” me through nursing school. I’m so sick of him
That’s disgusting
You have a point. In my perspective, the men that like this stuff look a little pathetic. They have never met these girls, they will never have them and would probably be annoyed as fuck by them in real life. I imagine that if they were actually to meet the girl in real life the illusion of the romanticized sex object would no longer stand bc they probably think and have opinions and have baggage like real people. They would become humanized. my ex does this and leaves comments and I swear to god tries to like every single sexy photo and I still love him as a person,but seriously what does that even give him? He looks like a creepy stalker. Can’t hate the women for doing it but can’t say they are doing any that great with their lives either. In my unpopular version of feminism they are almost submitting themselves to objectification and calling it empowerment.
Lol I just dumped my ex for engaging in this exact behavior obsessively and you wanna know the crazy part ? I LOOK like these IG models. I have the big boobs, small waist , in shape , etc but I’m not flaunting it all over social media . I’m also 12 years younger than him. Some men will never be satisfied. Cool. He can have his fake IG girlfriends .
Wow… I think I will stay single forever
For years I have not used any social media I realised it is a toxic place full of cluster b personality disordered pathologies I found it utterly depressing and vacuous.I thought it manipulates us to be pathologically cluster b’s.
I have a photographic degree I study visuals I wanted to represent women as the goddess not the whore..I was offered to do fashion photography in Japan I saw the trend for oversexualisation of the female form in corporate media so instead I took a masters in art as environment saying the corporate imagery was dangerous on a socio-psychological level plus their are kids seeing soft porn music videos. I just wanted to reassure people that this all doesn’t go unnoticed by the visusl creative community I left my thesis and art examining all this in uni and have my masters in this topic.I wouldn’t have a relationship with a guy who engages in the behaviour you all discuss either. The portrayal of the female form mass seen I found from lots of research is of the darker immature atchetypes and encourages negative sometimes dangerous self harm behaviours and increases porn as the norm. A great book you might all find interesting is by sheila jeffries it’s called beauty and misogyny I’ve also found another two books highly interesting regarding social media Cal Newport digital minimalism and Neil Saunders speaks and has wrote on the manipulation of social media he can be found on Richard D halls website look through his videos/interviews for Neil Saunders. I think their are spiritual issues with all this too..
I just noticed this past year my boyfriend has been following a number of IG models and they all look exactly the same – thin/fit with huge FAKE boobs (that he argues are real). I am in a stressful, rigorous full-time graduate school program right now so I am unable to put as much effort into my appearance that I previously did. I was about 5’4 and 130 lbs before and now I am about 145 lbs. It doesn’t look bad, but I am not happy with it. He says he “likes it”, I guess because my boobs are bigger, and yet sex has dwindled, he follows girls that look nothing like me and are able to INVEST ALL OF THEIR TIME AND MONEY INTO THEIR FUCKING APPEARANCE – must be nice! And here I am trying to invest my time into my future/career so we don’t have to struggle someday?? It’s such a huge turn off. I literally lose my desire for sex with him every time he opens his IG newsfeed.
I was in the exact same situation with my ex boyfriend who I loved but eventually that sort of thing became a recurring issue in the relationship and I felt disrespected and it led to trust issues. I think you should talk to your boyfriend about how you feel and his response will clarify further how you feel about it. x
Exactly Nicole! My husband said to me once every woman is born with the same things. Two eyes, two hands, boobs etc. He went on to say it’s up to the women to decide if they’re going to maintain it or not.
I think what he forgot is not every woman has the same resources unfortunately. Celebrities like Mila Kunis, Gal Gadot, Rihanna are indeed gorgeous, however they are a few millions of dollars richer than me and probably have access to a hairdresser and makeup artist on the daily. Like you said you are working everyday to secure your future. I’m the same. If I didn’t have to work to make a living I could also go to the hairdresser all the time and get a spray tan. I’d love to do that. Not for any man, but for myself but unfortunately that’s not the reality.
You’re not wrong. The rise of the ethot is only more distressing when you realize grown ass men are supporting this behavior.
It disgusts me men would be willing to pay for the equivalent of blue balls, but then I married above my grade and spent my mid 20s on the island of Hawaii anyway so maybe My view is skewed.
Either way, I see no reason to support such a fake individual who’s only here to take advantage of sad, weak individuals.
If you’re curious about what those instaparasites do, here’s an interesting read :
https://travellingjezebel.com/dubai-porta-potty/
Or you can simply Google “dubai porta potty” and read more.
They give up on their dignities for money so fat old Arabs can sh.t on them..
Maybe an interesting reaction would be for us girlfriends to post equally as explicit (and edited!) photos of ourselves and allow other men to connect and like us in the same way. I know my boyfriend who has been guilty of following these pages, and venomously believes he is doing nothing wrong in doing so, would absolutely HATE me posting photos like that of myself for other men to look at.
I personally can not muster the confidence to do it, plus I have family and work colleagues on Instagram, but I know what the reaction would be if I did. And it would be very telling!
Sneaky men (with only 1 Insta account) who still want to ogle “Instasluts” do not follow these implicating accounts.
Here’s what they do: They simply search, ogle, masturbate, then click the little “x”.
Want to see if your guy is doing this?
1. Go to the little magnifying glass/search-feed page. (By the way, the stuff on that feed page is/are the categories he is REALLY looking at — Case in point, look at your own search feed page to compare).
2. Click the search bar at the top. Type in one letter. (Try this with your account first — You’ll see the telling evidence).
3. Observe what populates with only that 1 letter — You got it: Everything this account has ever looked at. It doesn’t go on forever and it is CHRONOLOGICAL 💥 BOOM 💥
Want to do something about it? I guess you could go in and block the ones he frequents… But the feed algorithm is in place and the steady cascade of suggested “sluts” will continue unless he changes his searching behaviors. Take a photo of what you block for him — Check back to see if he un-blocks. Search cute dog pics while you’re in there to add some decency to his feed page a little. Good luck.
Holy shit! This just happened to me right after I had Achilles tendon surgery! Married 10 years and I’m fit as fuck!! He LIED saying it must be the lingerie line I sent him and who he follows that’s looking at this. ALL ‘perfect’ (I think they are fake) with big asses. His type, which I have on a real level. He finally came clean after I caught him checking out a hot young French girl in our neighborhood, VERY blatantly and then asking me about her. He keeps saying he loves me and thinks about me all the time and only masturbated to them when I’m not around or on my period, but I don’t believe him. He claims he prefers this to porn, but the availability and ultimate girl fantasy is what kills me!!
I feel the same but if you do ever have the confidence to post things like that do it !! It’s your life live it, you will be judged nomatter what you do and sometimes it’s not always a bad thing because you will soon realise there’s certain types of ignorant slut shaming people you might eventually not want in your life. If you love yourself enough and want to do that sort of thing no one can stop you 🙂
peace and love
I believe if someone “drools” over “hot” models on instagram, they should attempt to be with someone who fills that want. You want a hot chick with fake boobs? Go get that type of chick.
I feel that if you are with someone but are attracted to some other type of person, you’re staying with your current partner because you “can’t get that hottie”. I do not feel that a wife or husband should stick around with a partner who really would rather be with someone who looked like an instagram model.
I wouldn’t want to be with some dude who “settled” for me but dreams of some other body type or look. Fuck that. They can go be with those chicks.
PS – Try lots of single letters. Try them all, just by themselves. See if you make it even half-way to ‘z’ without noticing a pattern.
Im speechless. It’s spot on.
This is such an issue in relationships! My bf followed so many sexy profiles when we met. Hundreds. It made me question his intentions. I hated that every time he picked up his phone he was looking at half naked women. Not that that this matters, but I am in shape and felt pretty good about myself before dating him. I think no matter how pretty/fit you are, this behavior erodes your self esteem. I can always find something about these women that I don’t have. I think it’s just the idea that I was not enough. After many painful talks, he finally unfollowed all of them. But it damaged our relationship in some way, bc it took him over a year to do it. He also had inappropriate interactions with other women irl, and lied a lot. So, all in all not a great situation for me. The insta behavior was just a window into his brian. It showed me what his interests were. In the future if I start dating someone and they’re following a lot of insta sluts, I’m out.
If your partner is supposed to be with you but is looking at/following hundreds or thousands of Instasluts then that to me is utter disrespect on their part. It has nothing to do with jealousy, and everything to do with your partner respecting you enough to have the willpower to only have his eyes on YOU, and not succumb to STD infested silicone filled pixels on a screen that will never be aware of his existence. Ladies, do not blame yourselves or feel insecure when compared to Instasluts, on top of all the plastic surgeries they’ve had done to look the way they do, they also edit themselves heavily to further fit into the typical male ideal. Instead, be confident in who you are and know that you are already enough the way you are and it is absolutely not your fault if a man prefers pictures over reality, respect yourselves enough to leave such sleazeball men, they don’t deserve you. Recognize the signs early so that you’re not trapped in such a relationship, like a few here unfortunately are.
Hey there!
I came across your blog because I was googling ‘is it normal that my man follows big titted women on instagram’? Yes, that specific was my search! I’m clearly a few years to late to add to your blog but I’m doing it anyway as maybe it’ll get it out of my head typing it out!
I met someone on an app 3 months ago. I saw him 3 times in the last 3 months because he’s been Italy alot for business. We live in England. However, we chat every day and have built up a kind of virtual relationship. He’s now coming back tomorrow.
While he’s been away, I’ve sent loads of photos & videos (all willingly and happily. I’m kind of creative so I get a buzz). He added me to his Instagram while he was away, and I noticed one person in particular that stuck out like a huge pair of boobs! So I went on her page and, sure enough, she’s public and does this probably for a living. Seems she has an Only Fans page too. He is following all 3 of her Insta accounts and likes all the pictures she posts of herself. Some of them on days when I’ve sent him pics of me. Just to point out, my are not me shopping! They’re the eye popping kind.
Now a few deets about this. He mentioned this girl to me two months ago after I’d sent him a video. Told me he ‘dated’ her briefly when she was visiting here. Then told me she had huge boobs. When I asked if he subscribed to her fan page, he quite openly said “I’ll always be her fan”. This man is highly sexed. I get that but I felt sort of offended when he said that after me sending a video of me. I just told him that’s not the kind of thing I want to hear. He said I was being nice. I said, yeah, if you’re talking to your guy friends not someone you’re going to be ‘dating’!!! Anyway, I never forgot that and the bits of info he gave me lead me to figure out that this girl on his Insta is that girl! So now this torments me. The fact he likes every picture she puts up which is about every two days. I think if I didn’t know he ‘dated’ her, i wouldn’t mind so much but the fact that he did and is following her upsets me. Am I being stupid? She doesn’t even live here. She lives in California. I guess I’m questioning if followed someone you ‘dated’ last year is acceptable behaviour if you’re starting a new ‘thing’ with someone now? I understand men love to look and so do I, but all the available pictures of beautiful girls and, some not so beautiful like this gal, is really confusing me and making me fell like why bother to go through all the effort I do to produce these great shots of me if he’s just going to look online??. He doesn’t know I know yet, as I haven’t brought it up. I keep telling myself. He can do what he wants as he’s an adult and he’s nice to me, but I just can’t get this out of my head for some reason. It just doesn’t sit right with me. I think apps and internet should have tighter restrictions for what can be posted. I think that people posting their bodies for viewing should be on a platform like Only Fans and paid for. They should be out there for all and sundry, including young people, to see. I’m sure this is all going to screw up the brains and relationships of teens growing up in this day and age. It’s pretty sad if you ask me but what can we do. The only thing would be to start a campaign to legally restrict this type of content.
Not stupid at all. Have a chat to him about it, tell him how you feel.
His answer will give you all the clarity you need
Next time my man tries to sleep with me, I’ll be honest with him. Seeing him get worked up over hoes makes me less attracted to him, so I’m not in the mood to sleep with him. Simple as that. It’s disrespectful and if he’s so interested in those girls, he can go out there and try to get one.
I’m not playing this game or going to let myself feel belittled or less than.
26 year old man here.
I closed all my social medias for several reasons, privacy and wasted time the most important reasons, but one of them was to see, follow and fantasize with instasluts (or e-thots). My expectations with real world women were very high.
I think that between porn and social media sluts were enough conditions for not having a serious relationship with woman throughout my life.
Luckily, that’s over and my life is very simplified since I got rid of all that.
Interesting Kevin
It’s a problem on a much deeper level here. These sluts are exposing themselves to teenage boys and girls. They are also exposing their porn and prostitution sites through IG which is wrong. There needs to be strict guidelines when it comes to this kind of exposure.
I don’t date a guy who does this. I just said to my current partner I don’t want the added stress and drama in my relationship and I find it disrespectful. I don’t put up an ultimatum I just don’t continue on with the relationship if this is where he vests all his interest and time. I think my boyfriend was actually quite shocked at me being like this and actually backing myself with actions where other women would just fall prey to the control and ‘hang around and worry’ I will just blurt out oh this is shit and exactly state what’s going on then fuck off by myself 😂🤣 not worried about being alone..
This keeps him intrigued enough not to let me go and I can see he tries to pretend he finds it attractive because logically it is but he just gets off on skanks and tarty behaviour and women degrading themselves.. in my head he’s just a breeding partner to me that’s all I see it as because he’s not capable of higher relations or loyalty.. apart for some companionship and the constant dissapointnent of leering and denying it..
He had a ‘female friend’ who was never a real friend and was always flirting with him for attention but would never actually just date him. Who by the way is a junkie and gas three kids to three different people and is really nothing special in my books just notably greasy grotty looking and desperate for attention..
So when it became a problem after she relentlessly pursued him after he put on Facebook he was in a Relationship I just said listen I don’t do that and let people disrespect me like that 😂 and I went to break up with him but he regretfully just deleted her. It’s not up to my standard having a man look up and down every single woman he walks past then denying it to my face (gaslighting) or even watching alot of porn all the time it really does interfere with intimacy and trust in the relationship I don’t really have any respect for him as a person at this point in time and won’t in the future either 😂 and despite I love him I don’t admire him and not a single day goes by where I don’t actually want to break up with him and I’m completely honest about this he knows it. 😊
That’s the repercussions of his own actions unfortunately I think it’s really wrong these women get around like they are trying to attain likes and left swipes in real life and it’s hard to find a man with enough maturity to actually be able to navigate these women who see it as a challenge to try and steer his attention away from you just to actually get at you with their smug hateful glances and shit like I have so much more things to do in life and tying myself to a man who entertains this shit just ruins it for me I don’t want it to take the majority big my focus away from enjoying myself or being happy.
And it’s impossible not to when a man isn’t respecting you and is willing to play dumb pretending he doesn’t know how to!!
Men pretend they don’t understand or don’t pick up on it but they can’t really be that stupid it just comes down to entitlement and no wonder they don’t respect the majority of women look at how they behave they can’t even have respect for themselves male validation is more important than air apparently.
I really also hate this new feminist movement of women can try to seduce your partner and have their private parts out for all to see and can do no wrong basically but you are in the wrong for just wanting some common decency and mutual respect in society. ? Like you all have to be cut throat and ruthless and dress and act like a porn star or your partner will rightfully ‘upgrade’ like it’s so repulsive..
I know women who a man can knock on their door and they will just suck dick just for the sake of it any man knocks they do anal and suck his dick and laugh about stealing him from his wife and men can’t see it’s just putrid ??
I watch my neighbor doing it everyday for no actual reason it’s just like every hoe needs to outdo the next and it’s getting completely ridiculous.. Like it’s just irresistible to men apparently they have no protection from it like any fucking grommit slut can Wales eight up to your partner half naked and you are just meant to say oh well I’m outdone goodbye or I’ll just wait around until you’re rightfully done because you know you’re a man that’s ok….
Who wants a partner that’s staring up girls asses all day and then if you say anything about it you are being ‘pathetic’ I tell you what they just want to keep you down by ‘rightfulkly’ engaging with these stupid women that are ruining society on purpose they aren’t even doing it for their own gratification just enjoying to harm other people..
Seriously my partner used to say he “couldn’t understand it” but yet all I have to do is politely look up and smile at every man I see and Al of a sudden he could recognise that and my partner looked so worried and diminished by it yet he can’t actually take that and apply it to himself that he is actually making me feel worse than this by actively pursuing the attentions of other women and looking at naked photos online.???
Male entitlement is so rife it seems men can only relate everything to themselves not regarding a female as an actual emotive person but ‘hysterical and pathetic’ if he can’t do whatever he wants without regard for anybody else.
Sluts fill the void because they are willing to do just anything without any standards of treatment a guy can fuck her in the ass and post it online mocking her and she just enjoys being degraded like in her head it has put her above other women because she complied… That’s all it really is then they go around trying to take down each woman and outdo eachother that’s all it is it’s nothing about (having sex or dressing for themselves) that’s just what they say it’s actually a sick fetish where they get off on harming other women and themselves. But you can’t actually just say that because women are not allowed to stick up for themselves that’s ‘ubdesirable quality’ especially when you speak against ridiculously compliant behaviour or women harming other women on purpose people will not accept you saying something and just attack and ridicule you… Not the woman who’s sucking shit off some married guys penis or whatever. 😂😂 It’s you being pathetic the “home was already broken” because you “wherent enough” or he “upgraded” 🙄🙄
I don’t think the majority of men are actually capable of relationships and I think the women who sell themselves just for a bit if attention and play the man’s games just for a power trip they are the ones who really put feminism so far behind because they really are just so stupid and a product of misoginy they hate other women and enjoy harming them and are so low about it to claim a sense of empowerment or claim it’s even feminism when it doesn’t benefit women as a whole..
Like what’s this current trend of chasing after married or partnered men and throwing themselves at them and then saying “it’s not a broken hone it was already broken” and gloating and mocking the woman who lost her partner like you are not allowed to say or recognise women can be manipulative bullying and predatory with their sexuality.
I don’t want to go down the shops and there is some skank in a mini skirt without underwear on bending over to pick up groceries and staring at partnered men with her vagina (yes I mean inside the hole) in full view flashing it about then you see them walking past little kids and the little boy is copping a full face full of straight up ass and labia hanging out of shorts I don’t find anything about that liberating then your man gets to give a sideways glances and deny it to your face and smile to himself and the woman is smiling to herself she gets another like to her tally of the day walking around like it’s her only purpose! Um no thanks!!!!!
. I thought I was ‘crazy’ because I was being told by men women and society I was ‘crazy’ but this girl literally the other day my partner was sitting on a bench and put his head down because she kept strutting past in a minidress trying to get her rightful dues of attention and getting increasingly annoyed it wasn’t happening she literally came right towards us for no reason wasn’t even in the direction she was going and then was withing a cm of his head and like brushed her whole ass past his face on purpose then like staring agressivley at me I was like wtf is happening! Like we couldn’t stop laughing at the situation..
Where the fuck is the world actually going with this????
Sometimes he laughs and agrees it’s happening other times he enjoys pretending I’m just imagining it like men really don’t want to give this up they really do appreciate that women will bow down to them and empower them in this way and cut down other women do anything for just a glance of attention I’m not like that at all hey. And to a point I am deemed a ‘lesser value’ woman omen who will prance around and know their place is just only as a sexualised object men put them up on a pedastool….
I am non compliant I am ‘not hot’ I’m the kinda girl when the married man keeps trying to stare at my ass and tits and is following me around making me feel uncomfortabke iwill tell him to fuck off and have some respect and appreciation for his new mother wife standing right next to him 🤷 my boyfriend says ‘thats hot’ but it actually isn’t to him what’s hot what stores his attentions is some desperate half naked woman jumping through a hoop for his validation. In his head of some woman wears less is willing to go more or further or cut me down just to ‘proove’ she’s better ‘thats hot’ meanwhile in over there doing something with my life trying to ignore it minimise that stupid culture in my existence everyday with women throwing themselves in my face and giving me constant dissaproving judgemental stares like I’m this inferior being who doesn’t deserve a partner 😂 I’m not on fleek I’m not on point or whatever.
Harsh but true this is how I feel as a woman in this world and say and age 🤷 it’s annoying having to be around all this s***.
The other side to the coin on this is Facebook which is even more damaging in a way because the man can ‘innocently’ add women her truly knows in his day to day life and she can post provocative images and he can see her photos but claim he “hasn’t looked at them” or she’s “just a friend”. It’s like enabling men to secretly leer all they want like an all you can eat buffet, society doesn’t have a filter anymore there is no context people add everyone they know on Facebook then everybody they know has seen them in their latest ass bikini photo where they are pretending to look at the ocean and have a day out but it’s really all about putting a photo of their ass online, any guy can get into his phone and look at it at any time like there’s no context of it being a simple glance at the beach a guy can get online look up his co worker or whoever than sit and wank to a photo of her for over a. hour if he wants to it’s just brain damaging and women play innocent and pretend they don’t know what they are doing when in reality they’ve spent half the day making themselves up and editing images if themselves to post up. It’s even worse when the guy knows the woman personally and is doing this to his partner. It would be innapropriate if she came over his house and paraded around in her underwear right in front of him yet it’s socially ‘ok’ if she posts a provocative image of herself online and he ‘likes it’. I don’t see the difference of it being seen through a screen as to being seen in real life and neither do these men when they have to raise the tolerance on their addiction and increase their behaviours to get the same sort of dopamine hit.
I’m so happy to have found this discussion board! I have felt so alone for so long. I recently broke up with a boyfriend of 1 year and 4 months bc of this:/ i really felt like he was the one bc of how sweet and caring he was but once I saw his twitter likes I never felt the same way about him. I silently suffered for 6 months and finally broke up last week due to finding him talk to multiple only fan girls on twitter. He says they were just friends or mutals or whatever and that he didnt pay attention to “that” but why follow so many accounts like that in the first place???? The worst part about this is that I was really vulnerable to him about how I have struggled with my weight and body image my whole life and to see this all in his likes and interactions broke my heart. He wanted to work things out but it was too late and now I dont ever want to be in a relationship again bc this issue will always stick with me. I feel like I regret breaking up bc he wanted to work through this but everytime I think about all the girls he followed and how depressed it made me for months on end is what made me finally end it. If you are struggling with this, do yourself a favor and leave them especially of they are hesitant to delete said social media smh
I completely understand why arguements could arise from things like this I’ve had many arguements with my ex boyfriend about things like this. Hence the ‘Ex’ part. Men dont understand that doing things like that is so disrespectful they argue that it doesnt mean anything ‘its just a like’ but at the end of the day its the online equivalent of checking out another female depending on what the picture is obviously. But NEVER in any of these numerous arguements have I degraded any of the women posting these pictures. They arent ‘sluts’ and its shameful you would slut shame these women that you probably dont know a thing about. Dont blame the women blame your man they are the one thats in the wrong they have loyalties to you not the girl involved. By 2021 we shouldn’t still be slut shaming people, especially for meaningless instagram pictures get over it.
I cant beleive how disgraceful this article is. And the comment section. You all think you have these women on instagram figured out.. the truth is you know nothing about them. A picture is just that, a picture. Grow up and stop being so bitter if your man is being disrespectful drop him and find a more loyal one. Hell while your at it why dont you start posting whatever the fuck you want aswell ! You cannot be faulting the men for objectifying women and by the same token slut shame them! Imagine somebody slut shaming your daughter to the extremes you lot are.
Just today I found my boyfriend doing the same, he seemed like a super sweet husbant type, who is respectful and has his prioritys and respect in the right place, but he also follows 200 girls and only likes pictures of boobs and the worst one was of a girls ass wearing only a thong. I feel like such a fool. And I Snaped and droped him right away after he said dont be so hypocrite i know her ( in her bio she littarly says she is a porn actress). I put so much efford in to him. He didnt tell his parents not even after a year. Im older than him. And maybe im an old soul. But your article made me feel less crazy like he made me sound. So thank you! And im skipping that loser forever
Hello, I would like to say all men are like dogs. They like to look at women in a sexual way, period. Us as women can either except the fact that our men are freaks or run far away from them. I on the other hand has a friend that loves pornography, big booty girls, and feet. The reason I know is I did my research. I stalked his page. For some reason he doesn’t care because he is very messy when it comes to his social media page. Therefore I don’t say anything about my discoveries. I been with him for 3 years. He lives alone so do I. Getting back to the big booty girls, he loves it. Me on the other hand would like to stop all this social media shit! But this is life now. I always said “what my man does not want the next man will love it”! I keep my self esteem high always have. So when he is looking at ass and tits, I am living. I have experienced all type of men and their shit! I am still a queen because at the end of the day they all respect me to the fullest no matter what. If I come across any female that is with my friend/man I DONT get mad, I just keep going head up. When I do that, they look at me and say with their looks, dam she really doesn’t give 2 fucks about any bitch. The main thing is I have my priorities correct when it comes to the bullshit! I let any man know I see a lot and I know everything that goes on in my circle of men, period!
Just found this and love all the comments 😂
My biggest issue is the ignorant/bold decision to actually follow a bunch of mostly naked women on Instagram. People can see who you follow… what about your life, career, friends, family, significant other??? Again… these people know we can see who they follow publicly, without going through a personal phone or account, right? Ole’ Granny May can go try to find your aunt through your followed accounts and see that ‘“carsandnudebitches” page you follow. HA! 😅
The bigger problem is that this is so normalized. People (men & women) used to be a little more tactful and discreet when it came to looking up nudes and getting their rocks off… Now we all know what’s in that spank bank, and it’s weird. Coupled with the fact that it’s officially an obsession with someone’s artificial life at this point, not just a hot body to fantasize about one time. It’s too much!
Furthermore, it’s VERY different to have access to these women in real-time via DM, as opposed to having a favorite inaccessible celeb or porn star to Google. It’s heartbreaking to say but sex sells, people are pigs, and this isn’t changing anytime soon. So follow your instinct and morals, and choose wisely folks.
Hot Instagram models – Please for the love of god, work on a career that isn’t so short lived! Beauty fades, even with surgery. Your older $1M face and body will never be the same as your 20 year old face and body. Also, think of the fuckboys everyone else is talking shit on that you’re attracting. You more than anyone should know about QUALITY over quantity (Fendi bag influencer pics vs. those 50 fake jewelry companies asking you to pay for shipping)
Men – Fitting in or feeling no shame bc you know other guys who follow these fake women and think it’s okay… is not okay. It’s like meeting a 35 year old guy who decorates his bedroom with topless posters *insert cringe here* haha. Grow up and consider that people can see what you’re looking at. Your future (career, girlfriend, whatever) depends on you getting smarter. Also, no stranger next to you on the plane wants to see you scrolling through Ts & As. You make the world awkward and uncomfortable.
And Last,
Frustrated Ladies – It is OKAY to find this behavior offensive and/or disrespectful. “All guys do it” is not the right answer, and not an acceptable answer. You’re not crazy, you have standards, you want a man who doesn’t embarrass you with that shit, AND THATS OKAY.
Oh, and if you’re a chick that digs it and doesn’t care, you do you boo boo.
I just came across this article and I completely and utterly cannot stand how men act like horny teenagers who have never seen a naked woman as soon as they scroll past an instaslut’s picture. And then have the audacity to like these pictures, giving these girls the attention they want, and also being a follower of these instaslut pages. And some men even feel the need to add a comment on these pictures. At one age and stage on their lives, do men stop feeling the need to drool at the soght of a woman who is clearly posing in next to nothing in order to get the attention of any male? I am not comfortable with the idea of my partner perving on these women, as he casually scrolls through his FB or IG feed, like it’s the norm to see different women he doesn’t know in her gstrings or tiny bikinis. I think it’s a form of cheating because it’s a mental way for a man to imagine being with these women and that’s not ok, and this is so damaging to not only relationships but to the partners of these men. It also encourages dishonesty and deceit because the men think they are liking these pictures in such a way that it’s hard for them to get caught out.
Interesting to read how every comment from a woman is just talking about man bashing and no one has talked about the perils of feminism.. is this what feminism was meant to do? To turn women into online insta sluts one day? Feminism was supposed to liberate women and make them walk side by side next to a man but all feminism has done is that if men can sleep around then so can the women.. if men are filthy pigs then women can be the same.. if men like prostitutes then all women should turn into a prostitute or dress like a prostitute or become insta slut or webcam girl.. feminism was supposed to stop the objectification of women but it is the exact opposite in today’s world.. feminism was supposed to lead to a future where women are appreciated for their brains and not just for their beauty.. and we see the exact opposite with the rise in mindless insta sluts selling their body online for a few likes and followers.. feminism was supposed to let every woman feel confident about who they are without worrying about how they look and yet we have all these mindless women/teenagers with their insecurities who still behave the same way as they did back in the 60s..i.e totally not confident with what they have and always striving to look like that “photoshopped” poster girl/woman.. ever since feminism movement started – women have played an equal role in how a society is shaped and if you want a society where acting like a prostitute for likes and followers is a norm then do expect the men to oggle at the free buffet put out for display.. so think really hard on what kind of future society do you want – is it the one where every woman is appreciated for their contribution to humanity or is it the one where mindless insta-sluts just showcase more and more of their fake body (fake lashes, fake lips, fake nose, fake boobs, fake ass) to the rest of the world.. women today call each other bitch.. a woman is a woman’s biggest enemy and that’s what leads to every woman striving for extra attention from men to show it to their bitch pals.. women are in constant battle with each other on who looks the prettiest.. how does it matter? In the animal kingdom – its always the Male who works hard to attract a female yet in the human world its the exact opposite.. be happy with who you are and what you are.. but that’s easier said than done because there will always be an attention grabbing whore who will try to attract the men and then rest of you will want to follow the same attention grabbing tricks.. but why? Women are said to be intelligent than men so why would you act in that unintelligent way to start behaving like someone else when you have an individuality, personality, character and moral values (if you even know what that is) of your own.. yeah most of the men may be attracted to that attention grabbing whore but are those the kind of men you want.. lots to think about for the most intelligent gender within the human species and if you are that intelligent then I am sure that you’ll soon figure out that feminism doesn’t mean acting like a prostitute
When you post revealing photos of yourself on social media, do you ever consider how your SO feels?
This has ruined my relationship. I found out my fiancé is a nasty ass pervert on Instagram and was even looking and interacting with instasluts while we were in the recovery room after having our daughter. I’m flat disgusted by him and hate everything he says sexual to me and when he touches me. He’s f ing gross and I was caught so off guard I was so happy thinking that his cute comments and eyes were for me only. Nope any coke whore with tits and an Instagram can have his full attention. 🤮
I am SO pleased that you posted this and so eloquently to boot. My partner of 2 years is 48 and follows over 400 instasluts leaving comments to them of which they reply, turning into a thread of flirting. I’ve dug my heels in trying to get him to understand how this pains me, he calls me controlling and sees my complaint as foolish. I am 42 and unfortunately look my age, I try to make an effort on my appearance but knowing he is pouring over them leaves me not wanting to pull out my sexy side and show him a good time, I feel like it’s not worth it as my appearance in comparison to them is just embarrassing, also, I have a tiny bum and can’t twerk 🙃😅
Whores are a dime a dozen these days unfortunately which is why so many of us men are still single today.
My recent ex deleted his Instagram full of women when he asked me to be his gf. Within a month of dating he started a new one full of them and then dropped me through text saying he can’t handle a committed relationship
i hate instasluts. im a male with a private instagram. i use it to talk to a few close friends and celebrities i know. instagram has ruined dating. every single dating site is 98% girls trying to promote their instagram or other bullshit. guys like me cant find a decent woman
Well… I thought originally that it was men just being men and looking but my ex didn’t just follow them. He has such a massive ego and openedly said that he always needs to feel like he is with the most attractive woman in the room. If he isn’t he goes on insta and chats to all the “hotties” and, as I found out later met up with any who were nearby…. Needless to say we are longer in contact.
This is a great article, as a man in a commited relationship and as some who follows quite a few “insta sluts” I’d love to open up about why or what motivates me. I’ll be completely honest.
I find the my job is particularly boring, although I have a busy and filling life I find it’s only at work I end up scrolling instagram, following sluty profiles and getting drawn back to the same profiles again and again. I feel like it’s simply a source of entertainment like looking at fine art or a nice car however I refuse to like the posts.
Most of them have links to pages where you can pay for more explicit content but I also refuse to pay money somewhat because I’m tight but more so because I don’t like the power it gives women and it takes away what power men have, sound sexist I know but it’s my opinion that this day and age women are actually sitting above men able to manipulate through lies and deceite. Worse however are then men who pay for such thing willingly giving advantage to people not because of earning their money but just on the grounds for being lucky to be hot. Ive been working in an industry that’s had been male dominated for the last 10 years infact women were not allowed to apply now I see them I’m the work place being treated better then all the men… Well actually only the hot ones are treated better and treated better then the other women by these simps.
Yet if the girls want to display their skin I don’t mind entertaining my self by having a geeze, as for sending messages or calling them beautiful well that would be cheating in my eyes and I wouldn’t even message them if I was single because well I wouldn’t take them home to my mother, they may be hot and attractive to the eye yet to me attractive and beautiful have different meanings.
Hilarious when women fail to impose social consequences on the loose women in society.
Price of vagina starts to tank.
Women in these comments sound like haters. You can look perfect too like go work out or go get surgery. Who doesn’t want to look good? Also men are visual, the whole Kim k look has taken over Instagram and to be honest Kim k is a beautiful women why wouldn’t men want to look at women that look like her? Would u rather him look at men?
I’m a single man who is on Instagram , at first I thought interesting seeing the models. It is so overrun with them , my emails are nothing but bots trying to get me to join dating sites. Im to the point of not getting on the net anymore. Sure the woman are beautiful, but are they even real. I really would love to spend time with a real woman, to talk go out to dinner, to interact and share life. The men with beautiful wife’s and girlfriends they slip around on if they were alone wouldn’t find it any fun any longer. I miss cuddling the instasluts are making me more frustrated as a man , I don’t even get turned on looking at them I long for a real woman in my life. Im easily turned on by a real woman. It’s hard on me just going to the grocery store. (No pun intended) Michael
Oh how much I can relate to the post and most of the comments… I want to thank you all for writing it all out – it has helped me tremendously! I was under the impression that I am a jealous, unreasonable, insecure girlfriend who’s a female-hater … now I see that I am not.
Let me clarify something … even tho I’ve never owned an onlyfan page (even tho my cousin actively tried to be my manager and make me create one lol), nor I’ve ever had thousands of followers, nor I got any money, nor have I stolen a man, nor I was a parasite, nor went on any dates from Insta site lol etc., I was one of the insta-semi-sluts? I mean, I did not show my ass nor my tits, but now, looking back, I was one of the chicks posting some “look how sexy I am and want me” pictures … why? I wanted attention. This self-destructive behavior was all because I wanted attention. Regardless that it made males see me as a hot-piece-of-meat, I was ready to settle for the fake “affection” just to get attention. Once I started dating my bf I fully realized that I felt attention-deprived and that posting my selfies on Instagram gave me a fake sense of semi-fulfillment. Although I thought I loved and respected myself enough, it turned out – not really.
So yeah, I was one of them. And now, I am one of you – who absolutely dislikes and feels revolted by people who throw themselves naked for the public to shit on, people who ogle instasluts (male of female) or consume porn, or whatever explicit material the fuck you wanna have in your secret place … if you want to be a pervert who wasted away his/her life on fake bullshit – more power to you. However, let me ask one question: will these instasluts, pornstars, vulgar fucking things ever reciprocate any of your feelings? No. If one wants a healthy, mutual, honorable, strong relationship that will empower both partners – one has to make a conscious decision to refuse being brainwashed by fucked up social media and it’s porn/slut content. Show some respect not only to yourself – but also your partner. Make a decision and commit to evolve and be a better person whether you are a slut-content-provider or slut-content-consumer.
I was searching for something to help me feel better and found this! I’ve been dating a guy for nearly 11 months. No sexual touching, let alone actual sex. He insists he loves me and is attracted to me. We are both 50. He’s never had a long term relationship. When I met him he had the typical lingerie calendars hanging in his house that he took down because he thought they were disrespectful to me. Ok….thats cool. Yet, months later we still hadn’t slept together and I started to see the kind of woman that caught his attention. Large chested, heavy makeup, some trashy,
some classy kinda woman….but all big chested and scantily clad…..nothing like me. I’m an attractive, tomboy girl next door…blonde hair and green eyes, thin and active. When I suggested he wasn’t attracted to me because I don’t look like those other woman he actually got offended by my suggestion. I simply wanted to know the truth because him not touching me was beginning to hurt me. He was offended to the point that he suggested ‘I don’t know him at all and now he knows what I really think of him.’ Months later, still no touching, still no sex and I come across his ‘likes’ and ‘loves ‘ of random woman on Facebook. Big chests, bikinis….butts sticking out…..skin everywhere. I was so hurt and I reacted to it. He defended it and couldn’t understand my issue. We didn’t speak for almost 2 weeks. He reached out, came over, we talked about what was going on and he agreed that what he was doing not only looked bad but was disrespectful under the circumstances. Why take down your calendar but like random woman on social media? It didn’t make sense. Because he didn’t think I’d ever see the random woman he was liking is my guess….(the calendar was in front of my face, which by the way…..I never said a word about…he took it down on his own). This guy has ED, falls asleep next to me faster than a baby with a full belly…..still doesn’t touch me. I came across more ‘likes’ and ‘loves’ just tonight. I could see colors I was so hurt. Now I’m suddenly ‘nuts’ for thinking Facebook pictures should be this big of a deal. Is this guy the biggest jerkoff or am I off base here? His inconsistent ways have driven me away completely but, I don’t want to be off base with my thinking. I’m not insecure, but by God…..he definitely made feel that way. I feel like my hurt was justified.
33 male here. I’m exhausted of the insta-hoes as well. The dating scene has become a shit show due to women with over inflated egos created by beta cucks with nothing better to do than scroll their phones and yank their wanks. I’m disgusted with how men have devolved into drooling creatures that give these garbage women attention, becoming garbage themselves in the process.
I, too, am going through this right now. My husband of 25 years has been, since at least Dec 2021, following and commenting openly on the accounts of Sex Workers and other women on Twitter.
It’s humiliating! It sends a very public message that I am not enough for him – that he lacks the integrity required to follow through on our marriage contract – that he is de-valuing me, his partner, as a person and as a woman – that he has no regard or respect for me – that he is seeking a thrill that I can’t give him – that there is something wrong with our relationship – that he is too immature or lacks the skill to discuss problems with me.
On top of the public humiliation he is putting me through, he also tried to book 2 escorts in January (yes, I invaded his privacy and searched through his device – because he has given me reason to do it). He didn’t get to meet them but the fact that he tried is another round of humiliation and self doubt for me. It’s not a good feeling ladies!
So, here’s what I’ve done in the last two weeks – and if any of you have additional suggestions, I’m all ears!
1) He has no idea that I know what he is doing so I continue to monitor his activity.
2) I started initiating more sex.
3) I screwed up my courage to talk more openly about sex and what I want out of it.
4) I started sending him provocative selfies while he is at work.
5) I’ve started asking him what his fantasies are.
6) I’m planning a raunchy night for the two of us in a cheap motel later this month.
So far, I’ve seen a notable decrease in his interactions online. I’m hoping this will lead to some more meaningful conversations and I’m working to get to the heart of the matter and drag the truth out of him – I don’t want him to say what he thinks I want to hear – I want truth and openness.
So there it is – I’ve decided to take control of the situation and empower myself rather than be a victim. It took some hard self reflection on my part and will take more as time goes on. I have 25 years invested and I’m not letting it go without at least attempting to fight.
Whores are really a dime a dozen these days.
The insecurity here smells terrible. Stop blaming women for loving themselves or making money. Are you mad at McDonald’s for selling cheeseburgers? They sell sex/brands and get paid to do it. Discuss it with the dusty dudes who shouldn’t need to follow it. I don’t know an Instagram model- (or the instaslut term you should immediately cancel from your vocabulary, it’s as derogatory as any slur and speaks volume on your character) that post hoping to entice a dude in a relationship. That’s a you and your dude problem. We will not stop being hot or paid because it hurts your feelings.
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So I don’t click like on other instasluts ever.
But my gf has an insta page with nice pics, hardly slutty (but her belly bottom usually shows). She has thousands of followers and every post of hers get likewise thousands of likes, lots of comments and she also gets a random dickpick almost daily.
After reading this article, she sympathized with the side of the writer instead of defending the instasluts whose behaviour she is kind of imitating.
Isn’t this hypocritical?
Need to add every time I bring to attention that she is following hundreds of male users and she occasionally hits like as a like-for-like (haha) while I hardly follow any women she says I am jealous.
You see news articles about social media being bad for teen girls mental health….. Judging by most of these comments it seems as though it is bad for most peoples mental health and relationships.
What do you do when he won’t marry you after 10 years, has been a constant battle of him following onlyfans girls and has you blocked on all social media platforms, never posting or taking pics of me nor us together? I have mentioned so many times about him keeping me blocked and following these girls yet he still does it.
Do yourself a favor and dump him. I was in a similar situation and recently discovered his Tictok and Instagram accounts. After getting upset about it and barely speaking to him over the past month he still only unfollowed a few and left others. I’m not putting up with it. Not even after 9 years. I don’t have a ring and he’s never done anything to show the world he loves me so why should I allow him to disrespect me in front of the world? If he hasn’t figured out it’s disrespectful after the past month of cursing him out oh well. I’m not going to walk around here feeling some sort of way when I am unbelievably beautiful. Of course he tells me he loves me and he’s deleted his accounts but they are obviously still there. Yesterday was my last time bringing this up. He didn’t rush to clean up his profile so I blocked him on my phone. No more talking. I also deleted tiktoc and Instagram and only use FB to interact with people I actually know. It’s wrong on all levels to follow women for no reason except looks when your in a relationship. I’m not having it. Good luck to him because he lost the best he ever had. I waisted 9 years. Long distance too which makes it worse but easier because I can forget him. I often can’t believe this is where society is. Disgusting